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5. Have a conversation with your inner critic.

5. Have a conversation with your inner critic.

Journaling can help you understand your inner critic and develop self-compassion. Write out a “conversation” between you and your inner critic. This can help you identify your thoughts and will help you forgive yourself

You can also use journaling time to make a list of the qualities you like about yourself, including your strengths and skills. This can help boost your self-confidence when you’re feeling down about a mistake you made.

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7. Quiet the negative messages of you inner critic.

7. Quiet the negative messages of you inner critic.

Sometimes it can be difficult to recognize the thoughts that are getting in the way of forgiveness. If you’re struggling to sort out your inner critic, practice this exercise:

  • On one side of a piece of paper, write down what your inner critic says (which tends to be critical and irrati...

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10. Quit playing the tape.

10. Quit playing the tape.

It’s human nature to spend time and energy replaying our mistakes. While some processing is important, going over what happened again and again won’t allow you to forgive yourself.

When you catch yourself playing the “I’m a horrible person” tape, stop yourself and focus on one positive ac...

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11. Show kindness and compassion.

11. Show kindness and compassion.

If your first response to a negative situation is to criticize yourself, it’s time to show yourself some kindness and compassion. The only way to begin the journey to forgiveness is to be kind and compassionate with yourself.

This takes time, patience, and a reminder to yourself that you’r...

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8. Get clear about what you want.

8. Get clear about what you want.

If the mistake you made hurt another person, you need to determine the best course of action. Do you want to talk to this person and apologize?

If you’re on the fence about what to do, you might want to consider making amends. This goes beyond saying sorry to a person you’ve hurt. Instead,...

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1. Focus on your emotions.

1. Focus on your emotions.

One of the first steps in learning how to forgive yourself is to focus on your emotions. Before you can move forward, you need to acknowledge your emotions. Give yourself permission to recognize and accept the feelings that have been triggered in you and welcome them.

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6. Notice when you are being self-critical.

6. Notice when you are being self-critical.

We are our own worst critics, right?

One important action tip is to notice when that harsh voice comes in and then write it down. You might be surprised by what your inner critic actually says to you.

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_Forgive yourself_

_Forgive yourself_

Making peace and moving forward is often easier said than done. Being able to forgive yourself requires empathy, compassion, kindness, and understanding. It also requires you to accept that forgiveness is a choice.

Here are 12 tips you can try the next time you want to forgive yourself.

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4. Give yourself permission to put this process on hold.

4. Give yourself permission to put this process on hold.

If you make a mistake but have a hard time putting it out of your mind, Pickell says to visualize your thoughts and feelings about the mistake going into a container, such as a mason jar or box.

Then, tell yourself you are putting this aside for now and will return to it if and when it wil...

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9. Take your own advice.

9. Take your own advice.

Oftentimes, it’s easier to tell someone else what to do than to take our own advask yourself what you would tell your best friend if they were sharing this mistake they made with you, and then take your own advice.

If you’re having a difficult time working through this in your head, it can ...

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2. Acknowledge the mistake.

2. Acknowledge the mistake.

If you make a mistake and continue to struggle with letting it go, acknowledge out loud what you learned from the mistake.

When you give a voice to the thoughts in your head and the emotions in your heart, you may free yourself from some of the burdens. You also imprint in your mind what yo...

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3. Think of each mistake as a learning experience.

3. Think of each mistake as a learning experience.

Englander says to think of each “mistake” as a learning experience that holds the key to moving forward faster and more consistently in the future.

Reminding ourselves that we did the best we could with the tools and knowledge we had at the time, will help us forgive ourselves and move for...

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12. Seek professional help.

12. Seek professional help.

If you’re struggling to forgive yourself, you may benefit from talking to a professional. Talking to a counselor who can help you learn how to break these unhealthy patterns in your life and learn new and healthier ways of coping with mistakes.

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