If you are in pain in any way or something makes you uncomfortable, that means something is not right. Figure out why. That "something" could be a choice to change your life but most often, it's a shift in how you see yourself and what you focus on most.
Sabotaging yourself and your relationships create unnecessary pain and self-generated stress. To stop sabotaging yourself, you must first recognize when you’re getting in your own way. You need to figure out your patterns of behavior and then find creative ways to counteract them and form new habits.