We understand that people that we admire are imperfect, but don't find their flaws unforgivable. Yet, when it comes to ourselves, we beat ourselves up for our own imperfections.
Do not judge yourself more harshly than you judge them.
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From a young age, we learn that not everyone is on our side, and not all situations are going to go our way.
Over time, we build walls around our hearts to protect ourselves from these hurts.
Building walls create a safe space into which you can quickly retreat, but it also leaves you trapped behind your own emotional defenses, unable to give or receive positive emotions as well as negative ones.
This, in turn, leaves many people feeling isolated and alone.
The fear of vulnerability is ultimately a fear of rejection or abandonment. To combat it, you must first learn to love and accept yourself with all your flaws, embarrassing stories, past mistakes, insecurities and awkwardness.
Realize that everyone feels like this, regardless of how successful they are.
When you share your vulnerability with someone, and that person cares about your vulnerability, that is the person to go with.
By risking getting hurt, we often find we create more meaningful interactions that increase our ability to be resilient.
To heal your pain requires undertaking a process of self-examination. You must become curious as to why you react when your pain buttons are triggered.
Suffering ensues when you focus on your sorrow, instead of appreciating the beauty and richness of your complete self.
Become a student of vulnerability by taking small risks. Lean in to your vulnerabilities with openness and compassion.
This is one of the hardest emotional regulation skills to learn - letting go of painful emotional and regrets.
When you do manage to release all these negative emotions, you will find that your resilience and ability to deal with the curveballs of life will improve.