Choose curiosity over clash
At least one party in the conversation should be open to the idea that the discussion is a climbing wall, not a clash.
The point of a curiosity conversation is to understand the other person's perspective. Next time someone says something you immediately disagree with, say, "I never thought of it that way before. What can you share that would help me see what you see?" When you do this, people tend to become curious about you.
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