"Research shows that people with higher levels of self-compassion are significantly less likely to suppress unwanted thoughts and emotions than those who lack self-compassion. They’re more willing to experience their difficult feelings and to acknowledge that their emotions are valid and important.""The beauty of self-compassion is that instead of replacing negative feelings with positive ones, new positive emotions are generated by embracing the negative ones. The positive emotions of care and connectedness are felt alongside our painful feelings."

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<ul><li>Emotional resilience</li><li>Higher self compassion leads to less feelings of anxiety and depression</li><li>"Mindfulness allows us to see that our negative thoughts and emotions are just that—thoughts and emotions—not necessarily reality. They are therefore given less weight—they are observed, but not necessarily believed."</li></ul>

Benefits Of Self Compassion

This is a moment of suffering. Suffering is part of life. May I be kind to myself in this moment. May I give myself the compassion I need.MANTRA FOR NEGATIVE EMOTIONS

Mantra For Negative Emotions

<ol><li>Self-Kindness: be gentle and understanding with ourselves</li><li>Common Humanity: feeling connected with others</li><li>Mindfulness: hold our experience in balanced awareness</li></ol>

Three Components Of Self Compassion

Research on motivation consistently found that self-confidence directly impacts our abilities to reach our goals.Self-criticism can harm abilities to do our best. When we put ourselves down, we lose faith in ourselves.Self compassion is more effective a motivator than criticism because it comes from love, not fear.

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There’s also evidence that having compassion for yourself is related to having compassion for others in certain contexts. For instance, a recent study found that self-compassionate individuals have different goals in their friendships than those who lack self-compassion. They are more likely to focus on helping and encouraging their friends, as well as being compassionate toward their friends’ mistakes and weaknesses. They are also more willing to admit their own mistakes and weaknesses to their friends.

I realized that self-compassion was the perfect alternative to the relentless pursuit of self-esteem. Why? Because it offers the same protection against harsh self-criticism as self-esteem, but without the need to see ourselves as perfect or as better than others. In other words, self-compassion provides the same benefits as high self-esteem without its drawbacks.

Distorting Mirrors<ul><li>Ignoring flaws and blaming issues on someone else</li></ul>Cost of Self Judgment<ul><li>Can't always feel good about ourselves so we are hard on ourselves leading to emotional pain</li></ul>Another Way<ul><li>Stop judging and evaluating ourselves all together</li><li>Stop labeling as good or bad and instead treat ourselves with kindness and compassion</li></ul>

Discovering Self Compassion

Discovering self-compassion and actively practicing it leads to healthier lifestyles with less symptoms of depression and anxiety. This book is very informative and inspires to start living a self compassionate way of life.

Kristin Neff, Ph.D., says that it’s time to “stop beating yourself up and leave insecurity behind.” Self-Compassion: Stop Beating Yourself Up and Leave Insecurity Behind offers expert advice on how to limit self-criticism and offset its negative effects, enabling you to achieve your highest potential and a more contented, fulfilled life. More and more, psychologists are turning away from an emphasis on self-esteem and moving toward self-compassion in the treatment of their patients—and Dr. Neff’s extraordinary book offers exercises and action plans for dealing with every emotionally debilitating struggle, be it parenting, weight loss, or any of the numerous trials of everyday living.

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Kristin Neff, Ph.D., says that it’s time to “stop beating yourself up and leave insecurity behind.” Self-Compassion: Stop Beating Yourself Up and Leave Insecurity Behind offers expert advice on how to limit self-criticism and offset its negative effects, enabling you to achieve your highest potential and a more contented, fulfilled life.More and more, psychologists are turning away from an emphasis on self-esteem and moving toward self-compassion in the treatment of their patients—and Dr. Neff’s extraordinary book offers exercises and action plans for dealing with every emotionally debilitating struggle, be it parenting, weight loss, or any of the numerous trials of everyday living.

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