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How to Disarm Internal Triggers of Distractions
The internal trigger
Look for the discomfort that comes before the distraction.
Focus on the internal trigger that precedes the unwanted behavior, like feeling anxious, having a craving, feeling restless, or thinking you are incompetent.
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Dealing with intrusive thoughts
But we don't have to fight them, we just have to find better methods to handle them.
The internal trigger
Look for the discomfort that comes before the distraction.
Focus on the internal trigger that precedes the unwanted behavior, like feeling anxious, having a craving, feeling restless, or thinking you are incompetent.
Write down the trigger
Write down the trigger, the time of day, what you were doing, and how you felt when you noticed the internal trigger that led to the distracting behavior.
The better we are at noticing the behavior, the better we’ll be at managing it over time.
Explore your sensations
Get curious about the sensations you're feeling (fingers that twitch, butterflies in your stomach etc). And stay with the feeling before acting on the impulse.
Beware of liminal moments
These are the transitions from one thing to another throughout our days (like picking up your phone while waiting for a traffic light then finding yourself still looking at your phone while driving).
What’s dangerous is that by doing them “for just a second,” you’re likely to do things you'll later regret.
The 'ten-minute rule'
If you find yourself wanting to check your phone when you can’t think of anything better to do, tell yourself it’s fine to give in, but not right now: you have to wait just ten minutes.
It helps you deal with all sorts of potential distractions, like googling something rather than working or eating something unhealthy when you're bored.
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Creating An “If-Then” Plan
It gives you an automatic response to react to your cravings and makes it easier to replace a bad habit with a good one:
- Identify the scenario that usually triggers your bad habit.
- Specify a different response to the trigger. Ideally, this should be a good habit that would replace and prevent you from falling into the temptation.
- Combine steps 1 and 2 into an “if-then” format.
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