Do you find yourself saying to loved ones 'If you love me, can't you change for me?' That is not love. Loves true face is acceptance and freedom, not restriction and control.The moment we allow ourselves to just BE, do we finally feel at peace with ourselves. When we accept ourselves, others begin to accept us too.If you live life denying yourself what you want, you may unwittingly deny the wishes of others, feeling others should live as you do. If you stop denying your self, it will become easier to accept others as they are.Labelling something a problem is often what makes it a problem.

Acceptance

Its ok to have flaws.How could we have lived our lives clean and untarnished like a blank sheet of paper?Instead of living a life doing nothing for fear of making a mistake, choose a life that improves through the failures and pains.Shout out to your struggling self 'I love you so much' ❤

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No matter how good and how much you love a relationship, inevitably it will change over time.A close friend may move to another city, or a family member may pass away.Your circumstances too can and will change.But dont let this make you too sad, when one door closes, another one surely always opens.Bringing with it, new found love and joy 💫

Family

Listening is an act of love.If you come across somebody difficult for you, remind yourself of the following: <ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Just like me, they need to support their family.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Just like me, they are thinking about their future.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Just like me, they must be facing a hardship unknown to others.</li></ul>We hurt each other through ignorance more than out of spite. If we have hurt each other, in order to resolve, say 'I am very sorry and I have misunderstood you'.

Empathy

When you hesitate to forgive someone, I pray you find the compassionate gaze inside you, as we all face our personal demons 🌟

In a world striving for perfection, Buddhist monk Haemin Sunim's wisdom shows us how only by accepting ourselves and the flaws which make us who we are, can we create compassionate and fulfilling relations with our loved ones ❤Little book of realism.This book is a beautiful treasure for your self to get lost in.

Accepting Yourself

Its best for two people to be equally drawn to eachother. When one person likes the other too intensely, soon enough, it can become scary, burdensome and annoying.We find love and purpose in life through those who care deeply for us. After all, we are all imperfect beings in need of each other. Do not try to control or change the person you are truly drawn to. Just enjoy spending time together. The connection endures when you just enjoy their company, without attempting to possess them.

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After a negative experience, be wary of thoughts which make life seem worse than it is.Say 'so what?' to the nervous and inferior part of your self. Once you acknowledge the insecurities, you will find the courage within to overcome them.Failure is an inevitable human experience which we can learn from and become a little bit wiser and more prudent. See it as an opportunity to re-evaluate your self and grow mentally and spiritually.

Courage 

Even if someone I helped in the past, or I expected greatness from, causes me grave harm, may I consider him my greatest teacher.

Just as I wish for a swift end to my suffering, I also pray for others to quickly recover from their pain 🙏

The biggest victim of your own hatred is you, if you continue to hate somebody that you feel deserves your hatred. 'The deeper the valley of hatred grows, the more it comes to feel like you are trapped in hell. Resolve to be mindful of these negative feelings, for your own sake'.The good heart that prays for the end of the sufferings of others, ends its own sufferings with such prayers. Send out blessings to family, friends, colleagues and strangers.Healing begins when we tend to our self. Breathe deeply, in and out..

Healing

True freedom is being without anxiety about imperfection.

Silence is deep as Eternity, speech is shallow as Time.

5 ways to clear your thoughts and find peace in the present:<ol><li>Close your eyes and breathe deeply 10 times.</li><li>Close your eyes and listen to music that you like.</li><li>Enjoy walking without a destination in mind.</li><li>Smile as you look at beautiful scenery.</li><li>Shift your attention to your body, focus on how your shoulders and back feel.</li></ol>Your body may feel old, but your mind knows no age. It exists in the eternal now.

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Susan Cain, New York Times bestselling author of Quiet: "The world could surely use a little more love, a little more compassion, and a little more wisdom. In Love for Imperfect Things, Haemin Sunim shows us how to cultivate all three, and to find beauty in the most imperfect of things--including your very own self." A #1 internationally bestselling book of spiritual wisdom about learning to love ourselves, with all our imperfections, by the Buddhist author of The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down Hearing the words "be good to yourself first, then to others" was like being struck by lightning. Many of us respond to the pressures of life by turning inward and ignoring problems, sometimes resulting in anxiety or depression. Others react by working harder at the office, at school, or at home, hoping that this will make ourselves and the people we love happier. But what if being yourself is enough? Just as we are advised on airplanes to take our own oxygen first before helping others, we must first be at peace with ourselves before we can be at peace with the world around us. In this beautiful follow-up to his international bestseller The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down, Zen Buddhist monk Haemin Sunim turns his trademark wisdom to the art of self-care, arguing that only by accepting yourself--and the flaws that make you who you are--can you have compassionate and fulfilling relationships with your partner, your family, and your friends. With more than thirty-five full-color illustrations, Love for Imperfect Things will appeal to both your eyes and your heart, and help you learn to love yourself, your life, and everyone in it. When you care for yourself first, the world begins to find you worthy of care.

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Susan Cain, New York Times bestselling author of Quiet: "The world could surely use a little more love, a little more compassion, and a little more wisdom. In Love for Imperfect Things, Haemin Sunim shows us how to cultivate all three, and to find beauty in the most imperfect of things--including your very own self." A #1 internationally bestselling book of spiritual wisdom about learning to love ourselves, with all our imperfections, by the Buddhist author of The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down Hearing the words "be good to yourself first, then to others" was like being struck by lightning. Many of us respond to the pressures of life by turning inward and ignoring problems, sometimes resulting in anxiety or depression. Others react by working harder at the office, at school, or at home, hoping that this will make ourselves and the people we love happier. But what if being yourself is enough? Just as we are advised on airplanes to take our own oxygen first before helping others, we must first be at peace with ourselves before we can be at peace with the world around us. In this beautiful follow-up to his international bestseller The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down, Zen Buddhist monk Haemin Sunim turns his trademark wisdom to the art of self-care, arguing that only by accepting yourself--and the flaws that make you who you are--can you have compassionate and fulfilling relationships with your partner, your family, and your friends. With more than thirty-five full-color illustrations, Love for Imperfect Things will appeal to both your eyes and your heart, and help you learn to love yourself, your life, and everyone in it. When you care for yourself first, the world begins to find you worthy of care.

Zen Buddhist teacher, bestselling author & founder of the School for Broken Hearts in Seoul.Born in South Korea and educated at Berkeley, Harvard, and Princeton, he received formal monastic training from Haein monastery, South Korea and taught Asian religions at Hampshire College in Massachusetts for seven years.He is one of the most influential Zen monks in the world, with over 1.5 million followers on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram. His first book, The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down has been translated into more than 35 different languages and sold over four million copies.His second book, Love for Imperfect Things was the number one bestseller of the year 2016 in South Korea and became available in multiple languages in 2019.

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