Is a term coined by Vincent Harinam to describe the perfect man: one that has dark triad characteristics but that is also benevolent. It's a contradictory definition, aiming for a unity of contradictions.The Dark Triad is made up of three traits: Machiavellianism, Narcissism and Psychopathy. They sound negative but it's men with these characteristics that are considered sexy & interesting. A dark gentleman will balance out these attributes with a benevolent triad: Parental Investment, Protection and Provision (providing the goods and making decisions).

Dark Gentleman

Everybody has a dream, but nobody has a plan!

People who pursue ideas, who have a form of intelectual curiosity (especially in a digital world) are classified as either nerds or geeks. But the 2 can be separated based on their production capability:- a geek can be a programmer who writes useful code, thus being productive & useful somehow- a nerd is interested in 14th century poetry just for the hell of it, not producing anything useful for others.A dork is someone with no intelectual curiosity and no production capabilities.

Geeks, Nerds .... and Dorks

John Donovan, author of "The way of man", says masculinity is a combination of 4 traits: honour, strength, courage & mastery. Vincent Harinam proposes a similar triad:<ol><li>Courage: being afraid of doing something but doing it anyway</li><li>Personal Responsibility, verging on extreme ownership: taking responsibility for not only your problems but group and family also.</li><li>Conquest: having a goal bigger than yourself</li></ol>All of the above are based on the meta-skill of emotional control. Does not matter how you feel when you get up in the morning .... there is a job to be done, and real men do it.

What does it mean to be a man?

Interesting perspectives about what it means to be a man

Vincent Harinam is a data scientist, law enforcement consultant and writer on social phenomenon and the dating market. Between Tinder and OnlyFans, polyamory and Red Pill, incels, simps, sugar daddies and gold diggers, it's difficult to say that romance is alive and well in modern culture. Vincent has written some of the best articles and done huge deep data dives to uncover why the modern dating market is such a mess. Expect to learn why smart women are less likely to get married, why simping is such an unsuccessful dating strategy, how women's modern dating advice is mostly total trash, what Vincent's data uncovered around what women and men look for in a partner, how asymmetries in the dating market can create men who are dangerous for public safety and much more... Sponsors: Join the Modern Wisdom Community to connect with me & other listeners - https://modernwisdom.locals.com/ Get a $5 discount on Magic Spoon’s amazing cereal at https://magicspoon.com/modernwisdom (use code MODERNWISDOM) Get 5 days unlimited access to Shortform for free at https://www.shortform.com/modernwisdom (discount automatically applied) Get 5 Free Travel Packs, Free Liquid Vitamin D and Free Shipping from Athletic Greens at https://athleticgreens.com/modernwisdom (discount automatically applied) Extra Stuff: Check out Vincent's articles - https://quillette.com/author/vincent-harinam/ Get my free Reading List of 100 books to read before you die → https://chriswillx.com/books/ To support me on Patreon (thank you): https://www.patreon.com/modernwisdom #dating #redpill #tinder - 00:00 Intro 00:24 Vincent’s Incredible Writing 04:45 Why Simping Doesn’t Work 10:26 What Does it Mean to be a Man? 16:48 Defining ‘Dark Gentlemen’ 25:50 Why More Men are Single than Women 34:27 Impact of Eugenics in Dating 41:32 Reality of the Gender Wage-gap 47:50 How Casual Sex Misinforms Long-term Relationship Goals 54:09 Should Humanity Return to Polygamy? 1:01:40 The Disney-fication of Relationships 1:14:06 Can Female Competency Be Detrimental in Dating? 1:18:06 Should We Take Marriage More Seriously? 1:24:12 Dealing with Fringe Groups in Society 1:29:13 Where to Find Vincent - Join the Modern Wisdom Community on Locals - https://modernwisdom.locals.com/ Listen to all episodes on audio: Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/2MNqIgw Spotify: https://spoti.fi/2LSimPn - Get in touch in the comments below or head to... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/

personaldevelopment

Personal Development

loveandrelationships

Love & Relationships

Vincent Harinam is a data scientist, law enforcement consultant and writer on social phenomenon and the dating market.

Between Tinder and OnlyFans, polyamory and Red Pill, incels, simps, sugar daddies and gold diggers, it's difficult to say that romance is alive and well in modern culture. Vincent has written some of the best articles and done huge deep data dives to uncover why the modern dating market is such a mess.

Expect to learn why smart women are less likely to get married, why simping is such an unsuccessful dating strategy, how women's modern dating advice is mostly total trash, what Vincent's data uncovered around what women and men look for in a partner, how asymmetries in the dating market can create men who are dangerous for public safety and much more...

Sponsors:
Join the Modern Wisdom Community to connect with me & other listeners - https://modernwisdom.locals.com/

Get a $5 discount on Magic Spoon’s amazing cereal at https://magicspoon.com/modernwisdom (use code MODERNWISDOM)

Get 5 days unlimited access to Shortform for free at https://www.shortform.com/modernwisdom (discount automatically applied)

Get 5 Free Travel Packs, Free Liquid Vitamin D and Free Shipping from Athletic Greens at https://athleticgreens.com/modernwisdom (discount automatically applied)

Extra Stuff:
Check out Vincent's articles - https://quillette.com/author/vincent-harinam/ 
Get my free Reading List of 100 books to read before you die → https://chriswillx.com/books/
To support me on Patreon (thank you): https://www.patreon.com/modernwisdom

#dating #redpill #tinder

-

00:00 Intro
00:24 Vincent’s Incredible Writing
04:45 Why Simping Doesn’t Work
10:26 What Does it Mean to be a Man?
16:48 Defining ‘Dark Gentlemen’
25:50 Why More Men are Single than Women
34:27 Impact of Eugenics in Dating
41:32 Reality of the Gender Wage-gap
47:50 How Casual Sex Misinforms Long-term Relationship Goals
54:09 Should Humanity Return to Polygamy?
1:01:40 The Disney-fication of Relationships 
1:14:06 Can Female Competency Be Detrimental in Dating? 
1:18:06 Should We Take Marriage More Seriously?
1:24:12 Dealing with Fringe Groups in Society
1:29:13 Where to Find Vincent

-

Join the Modern Wisdom Community on Locals - https://modernwisdom.locals.com/

Listen to all episodes on audio:
Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/2MNqIgw
Spotify: https://spoti.fi/2LSimPn

-

Get in touch in the comments below or head to...
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx 
Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx
Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/

Bonjour I'm Chris, Host of the Modern Wisdom Podcast. Understanding the world is hard, this channel should help.

ERIC THOMAS

Similar ideas

ALBERT SZENT-GYÖRGYI

Realise that everybody is writing fiction about themselves

Thoughts Worth Considering