John Donovan, author of "The way of man", says masculinity is a combination of 4 traits: honour, strength, courage & mastery. Vincent Harinam proposes a similar triad:

1. Courage: being afraid of doing something but doing it anyway
2. Personal Responsibility, verging on extreme ownership: taking responsibility for not only your problems but group and family also.
3. Conquest: having a goal bigger than yourself

All of the above are based on the meta-skill of emotional control. Does not matter how you feel when you get up in the morning .... there is a job to be done, and real men do it.

Is a term coined by Vincent Harinam to describe the perfect man: one that has dark triad characteristics but that is also benevolent. It's a contradictory definition, aiming for a unity of contradictions.

The Dark Triad is made up of three traits: Machiavellianism, Narcissism and Psychopathy. They sound negative but it's men with these characteristics that are considered sexy & interesting. 

A dark gentleman will balance out these attributes with a benevolent triad: Parental Investment, Protection and Provision (providing the goods and making decisions).