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Makayla D.

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We're bad at listening

We come into conversations with our own agendas and low attention spans, and that can be a dangerous combination.

When you’re doing the talking, though, it’s frustrating if you’re not being heard. 

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You're a bad listener: Here's how to remember what people say

You're a bad listener: Here's how to remember what people say

https://www.fastcompany.com/40566557/youre-a-bad-listener-heres-how-to-remember-what-people-say

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