Take Control of Your Social Life

Take Control of Your Social Life

Popular people take charge of making dates and sending out invitations. These interactions allow them to continue to work on their social skills. Shy people wait to be asked out.

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Focus on Others

The biggest barrier shy people have to overcome is that they have this tremendous sense of self-focus. Popular people focus on others instead of obsessing about themselves.

Popular people are genuinely interested in other people, actively learn more about them, and look for connections. 

Popular people have worked at and mastered this.

  • The first step is having an opening line. The simpler the better. For example, comment on the environment.
  • The next step is introducing yourself. Include enough information that the other person can ask questions.
  • The third step involves conversation exploration, where the pair or group goes from introductions to a topic. 
  • Step four is topic expansion, building on the topic at hand by focusing on what the other person is saying.
  • The final step is to end the conversation by expressing gratitude for the connection.

Popular people are aware of what’s going on around them and appear approachable. They’re interested in others and are good listeners. They also introduce people to each other by sharing details that generate conversations.

Popular people are often kind people. The notice you and might pay you a compliment. They'll ask if you need anything and help you.

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We go through almost the same stages as if we were grieving (self-blame, trying to win back our rejecter because we hate being disliked, and feeling like a failure). These feelings are healthy and normal, so long as you don’t end up dwelling on them.

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Managing social anxiety disorder at work

People with social anxiety may face specific problems in the workplace, such as the inability to network effectively, failure to develop relationships with coworkers, fear of attending business social events, lack of self-confidence, and difficulty speaking up in meetings.

There is no limit to the achievement of shy people when shyness is properly managed. While it is not the same as social anxiety, ideas that help shy people adapt can also be useful for managing social anxiety in the workplace.

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In the West, good eye contact is praised and expected, but in other cultures, it is a sign of disrespect and challenge.

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