Don’t Pass Judgment

A likeable person is open-minded. No one wants to have a conversation with someone who has already formed an opinion and is not willing to listen.

To eliminate preconceived notions and judgment, you need to see the world through other people’s eyes.

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Ask Questions
The biggest mistake people make when it comes to listening is they're so focused on what they're going to say next that they fail to hear what's being said.
Avoid this by asking questions. People like to know you're listening, and something as simple as a clarification question shows that you are listening.

When you commit to a conversation, focus all of your energy on the conversation. Nothing will turn someone off to you like a glance at your phone.

They Are Genuine
People gravitate toward those who are genuine because they know they can trust them.

By concentrating on what drives you and makes you happy as an individual, you become a much more interesting person.

People are averse to those who are desperate for attention. 

When you speak in a friendly, confident, and concise manner, you will notice that people are much more attentive and persuadable than if you try to show them you’re important.

To be consistent you must be reliable, and you must ensure that even when your mood goes up and down it doesn’t affect how you treat other people.
Use Positive Body Language
How you say something can be more important than what you say.

Using an enthusiastic tone, uncrossing your arms, maintaining eye contact, and leaning towards the person who’s speaking are all forms of positive body language that high-EQ people use to draw others in.

Most people decide whether or not they like you within the first seven seconds of meeting you.

Strong posture, a firm handshake, smiling, and opening your shoulders to the person you are talking to will help ensure that you make a good first impression.

Likeable people make certain they use others’ names. Research shows that people feel validated when the person they’re speaking with refers to them by name during a conversation.

Make remembering people’s names a brain exercise if you have trouble with names.

Smile

People naturally (and unconsciously) mirror the body language of the person they’re talking to.

If you want people to like you, smile at them during a conversation. 

Likeable people let the other person guide when it’s the right time for them to open up.

Avoid sharing personal problems and confessions too quickly.

When you touch someone during a conversation, you release oxytocin in their brain, a neurotransmitter that makes their brain associate you with trust and other positive feelings.

You have to touch the right person in the right way to release oxytocin, as unwanted or inappropriate touching has the opposite effect.

Likeable people are serious, yet friendly. They minimize small talk and gossip and instead focus on having meaningful interactions with their coworkers.

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Be Swift and Sweet

Keep the conversation moving at a comfortable but somewhat brisk pace. Don’t cut the conversation short if things are going well, but also avoid hitting uncomfortable lulls. So when the pace starts to die down, it's time to make an exit.

On your way out make sure that the other remembers you. 

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Listening skills

Popular people do not focus on themselves, their problems, or their achievements.

They are active listeners, asking a few questions to encourage others to talk. They do not expect perfection and tolerate the weaknesses of others well.

Masters of social jiu-jitsu

Charming people ask sincere questions that make it easy to answer in a thoughtful, introspective way. They make you think, in a good way, about yourself, and in the process make you feel charming too.

You feel like the most interesting man (or woman) in the world. And you like them for making you feel that way.

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