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13 Habits of Exceptionally Likeable People

https://www.forbes.com/sites/travisbradberry/2015/01/27/13-habits-of-exceptionally-likeable-people/

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13 Habits of Exceptionally Likeable People
Too many people succumb to the mistaken belief that being likeable comes from natural, unteachable traits that belong only to a lucky few-the good looking, the fiercely social, and the incredibly talented. It's easy to fall prey to this misconception.

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Ask Questions

Ask Questions
The biggest mistake people make when it comes to listening is they're so focused on what they're going to say next that they fail to hear what's being said.
Avoid this by asking questions. People like to know you're listening, and something as simple as a clarification question shows that you are listening.

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Put Away Your Phone

When you commit to a conversation, focus all of your energy on the conversation. Nothing will turn someone off to you like a glance at your phone.

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They Are Genuine

They Are Genuine
People gravitate toward those who are genuine because they know they can trust them.

By concentrating on what drives you and makes you happy as an individual, you become a much more interesting person.

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Don’t Pass Judgment

A likeable person is open-minded. No one wants to have a conversation with someone who has already formed an opinion and is not willing to listen.

To eliminate preconceived notions and judgment, you need to see the world through other people’s eyes.

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Don’t Seek Attention

People are averse to those who are desperate for attention. 

When you speak in a friendly, confident, and concise manner, you will notice that people are much more attentive and persuadable than if you try to show them you’re important.

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Be Consistent

To be consistent you must be reliable, and you must ensure that even when your mood goes up and down it doesn’t affect how you treat other people.

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Use Positive Body Language

Use Positive Body Language
How you say something can be more important than what you say.

Using an enthusiastic tone, uncrossing your arms, maintaining eye contact, and leaning towards the person who’s speaking are all forms of positive body language that high-EQ people use to draw others in.

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Leave a Strong First Impression

Most people decide whether or not they like you within the first seven seconds of meeting you.

Strong posture, a firm handshake, smiling, and opening your shoulders to the person you are talking to will help ensure that you make a good first impression.

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Greet People by Name

Likeable people make certain they use others’ names. Research shows that people feel validated when the person they’re speaking with refers to them by name during a conversation.

Make remembering people’s names a brain exercise if you have trouble with names.

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Smile

Smile

People naturally (and unconsciously) mirror the body language of the person they’re talking to.

If you want people to like you, smile at them during a conversation. 

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Know When To Open Up

Likeable people let the other person guide when it’s the right time for them to open up.

Avoid sharing personal problems and confessions too quickly.

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Know Who To Touch

When you touch someone during a conversation, you release oxytocin in their brain, a neurotransmitter that makes their brain associate you with trust and other positive feelings.

You have to touch the right person in the right way to release oxytocin, as unwanted or inappropriate touching has the opposite effect.

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Balance Passion and Fun

Likeable people are serious, yet friendly. They minimize small talk and gossip and instead focus on having meaningful interactions with their coworkers.

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Name memory

Popular people remember the names of those they meet.

Calling someone by name makes a person feel recognized and appreciated.

Listening skills

Popular people do not focus on themselves, their problems, or their achievements.

They are active listeners, asking a few questions to encourage others to talk. They do not expect perfection and tolerate the weaknesses of others well.

Positive attitude

Likable people are always positive and optimistic.

They are very grateful for the things they have in life and do not focus on the things they lack.

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Be Yourself And Be Ready For Rejection

Be Yourself And Be Ready For Rejection

Having charm is not about deceiving others. Keep strong negative feelings to yourself, do your best to reveal who you are and if you disagree with something, do so nicely.

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Be Swift and Sweet

Keep the conversation moving at a comfortable but somewhat brisk pace. Don’t cut the conversation short if things are going well, but also avoid hitting uncomfortable lulls. So when the pace starts to die down, it's time to make an exit.

On your way out make sure that the other remembers you. 

A Simple Touch Can Go A Long Way

Touch is a physical way of indicating acceptance and if properly timed it can be very charming

There's nothing wrong with a handshake when you introduce yourself, but beyond that, don't abuse touch. Stick to safe zones like the outside of the arm and upper back, and when in doubt, just stick to those handshakes.

Authentic leadership

Is a management style in which leaders are genuine, self-aware, and transparent. 

An authentic leader is able to inspire loyalty and trust in her employees by consistently display...

Components of Authentic Leadership

  • Self-Awareness: be aware of your trengths, weaknesses, and values and displaying them to your team.
  • Relational Transparency: remain genuine, straightforward, and honest with your team. Display the behavior you hope to see in your employees.
  • Balanced Processing: stick to your values when making decisions, but remain open to discussions and alternatve options.
  • Doing the right thing: focus on doing the right thing for the long-term success of the business, not yours.

3 ways to practie self-awareness as a leader

  • Seek feedback from the environment;
  • Use self-reflection to better understand your behavior;
  • Practice regular self-observation to stay aware of your feelings at all times.