1. “Be impeccable with your word”: Say only what you mean.
2. “Don’t take anything personally”: Understand that other’s words are the product of their domesticated lives.
3. “Don’t make assumptions”:

• When someone calls you ugly, it says a whole lot more about them and their problems than about you.
• Whatever issues they’re dealing with has led them to take their frustration out on you.
• The only way to really make this a habit is to become very, v...

• … is a process that starts the day we’re born. You don’t pick your first language, you don’t choose your first school and you can’t control what attitudes your parents instill in you.
• Parents, peers, teachers, religion, all these influences instill a set of rules

• It means doing the best that you can individually manage, which can vary by situation.
• You can avoid feelings of regret and accept that people do their best at every moment.
• You will come to enjoy the action i...

• Speak with integrity.

• We are “Domesticated” — Social norms & rules are lodged deep within us.

• In Miguel’s eyes, making assumptions leads to suffering.
• Assumptions often have very little basis in reality and are only real in our imaginations.
• To overcome this expectation, ask questions and maintain clear communication with others

• There are lots of them, waiting to be learned.