When you force yourself to spend time with someone or pretend to have a good time, you either are lying to yourself, or lying to them. This is not truthful living. You are not serving anyone by maintaining this ruse.Having history with someone is not enough fuel for a real friendship lasting forever.

Be Real About It

The biggest difference between a frenemy and a fake friend is that you know there’s bad blood between the two of you… whereas a fake friendship can feel like a real one, but it can be more damaging than good for you.Fake friends are the people you hang around with that drain your energy. You don’t feel comfortable, genuine, or emotionally secure around fake friends. You also wouldn’t trust your fake friend with the keys to your home.

Signs Of A Fake Friend

True friends are people who are there for you during life’s up and down moments. They are genuinely happy for you when you succeed, and will be there for you when you ask them for help that is within their boundaries.Real friendship is a two way process, making you feel loved, happy, and supported, unlike fake friends.

A True Friend

Here’s the big idea:We absolutely can grow out of friends, just like we grow out of clothes. Our taste and preferences change over time.…And this is not a bad thing. Its ok to let eachother go.

Dont Waste Time

Obligatory Friend: Someone you don’t enjoy spending time with, but end up spending time with because you feel guilty. It’s a habit you do not know how to stop.It all starts with the Spheres of Interest. When you first meet someone, you are not sure how many of your interests and their interests overlap. You both have spheres of interest, and you wonder how much overlaps..

Fake Friendship Trap

Sometimes interests can be points of relevance such as:<ul><li>Working at the same company</li><li>Living in the same building</li><li>Going to the same school</li><li>Playing on the same team</li><li>Being a part of the same organization</li><li>Having gone on the same trip</li></ul>The more you have in common, the more relevant someone is to you.In great relationships, the Spheres of Interest move closer together. Its natural when the circles move apart. Its how you handle it that counts.. be logical. Not emotional.

Do you actually like spending time with them?

There comes a point in some unhealthy, unfulfilling relationships where the friendship bubble needs bursting. The lies. The faking it. The pretending everything is fine. It needs to stop. Friendship break-ups should be treated EXACTLY like romantic break-ups. The same way we don't tolerate toxic behaviour from a potential partner, we shouldn't tolerate toxic energy from a friendship of any time span.

The Burst

Do you need to end a friendship?Sometimes we have to break up with certain people.See why fakeness can be so damaging and how to protect yourself.﻿

Fake Friend Syndrome

Are there people who you are close with for the wrong reasons? Are there people who you are lying to yourself about? Are there people you dread hanging out with?Letting them go helps you both.When we say no to relationships that don’t serve us, we make room for relationships that do. There is no need to lie and make up BS to prolong the inevitable. Just be honest and mature about it.

Good Bye.

These are some signs that you have a genuine friendship, and not a fake one:<ul><li>Real friends give us their attention and are present to our needs.</li><li>They support us when we are feeling down.</li><li>True friends are genuine and keep their promises.</li><li>They are there for you even if they can’t get something from you.</li><li>They accept your flaws.</li><li>They actively listen rather than focus on themselves.</li><li>True friends make us want to become better.</li></ul>

Need A Breakup? 

Guilt is not fuel.History is not enough.Feigned closeness is deception.Be honest.Have more time for real relationships.Live in truth and with real friends.

A True Friend

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