Make Influence Pressureless
But when you make an invitation without any pressure whatsoever, people become inclined to lean forward. It’s one of the aikido moves for handling resistance. All you have to do is add a softener to your request like, “I know you’re probably busy,” or “please don’t say yes unless you really want to do this,” or “would you feel comfortable?”
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Insights on authentic influence, not “influencer influence”. Still, if influence is a superpower, and since we all might unconsciously be, or find ourselves, at either the giving or the receiving end of influence, it’s good to remember that where there are superpowers, there are of course superheroes, but there are also supervillains.
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