Confidence is often seen as an elusive trait that others have but you don’t.
The truth is confidence is what appears after you go for what you want; it is the result of stepping into the unknown in spite of feeling nervous or fearful.
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How you hold yourself physically plays a big part in how you hold yourself mentally.
In order to begin to feel and look confident, stand tall, shoulders & head back, being aware of what is around you, and keeping hand motioning to an absolute minimum.
Changing your environment changes the stimuli that are going into your brain—this affects your moment-by-moment perception of the world.
Think of places you frequent where you feel your most creative, happiest, relaxed. Aim to go to these places when you feel low in confidence.
Whenever we are doing something new, we tend to feel bad when we fail. We ultimately wonder if we should quit. However, any skill that’s worthwhile will always be preceded by failure as you go through the process of learning.
By combining this process with doing something you are good at, you will feel your confidence rise. Be aware of your strengths and use them daily.
Your thoughts will influence your behavior. Reframing can change the direction of your thoughts. When you catch yourself having negative thoughts, ask these 3 questions:
Feelings that bring about low confidence like fear & anxiety can result in 2 effects: shallow breathing and thoughts of a disastrous future.
Counteract this by having periods of intentionally breathing deeply and visualizing a future where you are handling situations in a controlled and confident manner.
People instinctually appreciate people whose public persona matches their private values.
When someone professes to be one way but lives contrary to that profession, it signals that they are confused or untrustworthy and thereby, inauthentic.
In trying to change a behavior, reason will take you only so far, incentives must be taken into account as well.
In psychology, operant conditioning is a type of learning in which the strength of a behavior is modified by its consequences, such as reward or punishment. This is the predominant theory on how humans behave.
Patience is not the ability to wait for something. Patience is our attitude towards waiting.
And the truth is we are becoming more and more impatient, mostly because we are now used to have everything at our fingertips, 24/7.