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5 Ways to Feel Confident in Under 5 Minutes

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5 Ways to Feel Confident in Under 5 Minutes
Can a person really be toxic? Well, a toxic person does not refer to those who are affected by the virus or toxic. To be precise, toxic people are those who are very unsupportive, abusive and unhealthy in nature. Their behavior is filled with venom and you will not feel any sort of gentle breeze in their words.

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What confidence is

Confidence is often seen as an elusive trait that others have but you don’t.

The truth is confidence is what appears after you go for what you want; it is the result of stepping into the unknown in spite of feeling nervous or fearful.

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Tall posture

How you hold yourself physically plays a big part in how you hold yourself mentally.

In order to begin to feel and look confident, stand tall, shoulders & head back, being aware of what is around you, and keeping hand motioning to an absolute minimum.

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Change your environment

Changing your environment changes the stimuli that are going into your brain—this affects your moment-by-moment perception of the world.

Think of places you frequent where you feel your most creative, happiest, relaxed. Aim to go to these places when you feel low in confidence.

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Do something you are good at

Whenever we are doing something new, we tend to feel bad when we fail. We ultimately wonder if we should quit. However, any skill that’s worthwhile will always be preceded by failure as you go through the process of learning.

By combining this process with doing something you are good at, you will feel your confidence rise. Be aware of your strengths and use them daily.

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Reframe

Your thoughts will influence your behavior. Reframing can change the direction of your thoughts. When you catch yourself having negative thoughts, ask these 3 questions:

  • How can I make this work in my favour?
  • What is the benefit that has come from this?
  • What is a more useful way of looking at this?

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Breath and future thought

Feelings that bring about low confidence like fear & anxiety can result in 2 effects: shallow breathing and thoughts of a disastrous future. 

Counteract this by having periods of intentionally breathing deeply and visualizing a future where you are handling situations in a controlled and confident manner. 

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Soft language vs. hard language

  • Soft language: it uses “I” statements and focuses on the actions that took place, how they made us feel, and what we want to happen.
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Create space

It's useful to agree in advance to call a “timeout” or “press pause” before arguments begin.

It will give you the time to work through what happened. Because arguing when you are in a low emotional state is not going to help you.

What if…?

Ask yourself these questions: “What if the other person had a point? What if I wasn’t being honest with myself? What if I wasn’t taking responsibility for something?”

This will provide a new lens through which you'll see the situation. You might realize that there are things you could take responsibility for, that you were probably ignoring based on your initial triggered response.

Change and the unchangeable

We like to think that things can be changed. That we are in control somehow.  That's why “never” hurts, because never means that it can’t be changed. “Never” means it’s over. It’s gone. And ...

Meaning and relationships

  • We generate meaning through relationships. And meaning is the fuel of our minds. 
  • Our relationships also define our understanding of ourselves. And when one of these relationships is destroyed, that part of our identity is destroyed along with it. 

Depression vs. sadness

  • Sadness occurs when something feels bad. 
  • Depression occurs when something feels meaningless. 

When something feels bad, at least it has meaning. In depression, everything becomes a big blank void.