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Confidence is often seen as an elusive trait that others have but you don’t.
The truth is confidence is what appears after you go for what you want; it is the result of stepping into the unknown in spite of feeling nervous or fearful.
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How you hold yourself physically plays a big part in how you hold yourself mentally.
In order to begin to feel and look confident, stand tall, shoulders & head back, being aware of what is around you, and keeping hand motioning to an absolute minimum.
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Changing your environment changes the stimuli that are going into your brain—this affects your moment-by-moment perception of the world.
Think of places you frequent where you feel your most creative, happiest, relaxed. Aim to go to these places when you feel low in confidence.
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Whenever we are doing something new, we tend to feel bad when we fail. We ultimately wonder if we should quit. However, any skill that’s worthwhile will always be preceded by failure as you go through the process of learning.
By combining this process with doing something you are good at, you will feel your confidence rise. Be aware of your strengths and use them daily.
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Your thoughts will influence your behavior. Reframing can change the direction of your thoughts. When you catch yourself having negative thoughts, ask these 3 questions:
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Feelings that bring about low confidence like fear & anxiety can result in 2 effects: shallow breathing and thoughts of a disastrous future.
Counteract this by having periods of intentionally breathing deeply and visualizing a future where you are handling situations in a controlled and confident manner.
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People instinctually appreciate people whose public persona matches their private values.
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Listening meets a person’s primary need for validation and acceptance.
To positively influence others, you must listen to what is spoken and what is left unsaid, because by doing this you'll learn more about a person’s character, desires, and needs.
Become an authority in the area in which you seek to lead others.
Most people are predisposed to listen to, if not respect, authority.
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It's useful to agree in advance to call a “timeout” or “press pause” before arguments begin.
It will give you the time to work through what happened. Because arguing when you are in a low emotional state is not going to help you.
Ask yourself these questions: “What if the other person had a point? What if I wasn’t being honest with myself? What if I wasn’t taking responsibility for something?”
This will provide a new lens through which you'll see the situation. You might realize that there are things you could take responsibility for, that you were probably ignoring based on your initial triggered response.
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When something feels bad, at least it has meaning. In depression, everything becomes a big blank void.