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5 Ways to Feel Confident in Under 5 Minutes

Change your environment

Changing your environment changes the stimuli that are going into your brain—this affects your moment-by-moment perception of the world.

Think of places you frequent where you feel your most creative, happiest, relaxed. Aim to go to these places when you feel low in confidence.

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