Heed the warning signs
Stay away from anyone who thinks nothing of invading your space for their own end.
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Understand that your boundaries are different from others.
You can learn to be emotionally attached to others while remaining psychologically and intellectually detached. This kind of space allows for personal expression while minimizing emotional and psychological entanglement.
- Not allowing you to speak or be heard.
- Yelling at you.
- Saying things that are derogatory about your integrity and character.
- Gossiping about you.
It’s a waste of your time and energy to try to fix other people because they’re not interested in becoming any other way than they are.
When you respect yourself, you should expect that others will treat you with respect. If they don’t, that’s a clear sign not to engage.
Get to know yourself as best you can. Become familiar and comfortable with your own beliefs, emotions, feelings, and ideas.
- Preying upon your sense of self and self-esteem
- Using what you’ve told them in confidence against you
- Lying to you
- Criticizing you
- Manipulating you
- Mocking you
- Making demands of your time
- Bullying you
- Lording a superior attitude over you
- Moving into your personal space
- Touching you without permission
- Being inappropriate or too familiar towards you
- Violating your privacy
- Damaging or destroying your personal property
- Threatening you with physical harm
You don’t need to feel that you owe anyone anything more than you want to give with your free and conscious heart.
If anyone invades your boundaries, be ready to walk away without fear or guilt.
Develop the capacity to know what needs to be done for yourself.
By setting your own boundaries, you are setting your limits about who can come into your space and what you expect of others once they’re there.
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The first step to change is admitting this.
Your boundaries are your values. Boundaries are representative of how much or little you respect yourself.
- Know that you have a right to personal boundaries.
- Recognize that other people's needs and feelings are not more important than your own.
- Learn to say no.
- Identify the actions and behaviors that you find unacceptable.
- Trust and believe in yourself.
- you feel like people take advantage of you or use your emotions for their own gain.
- you feel like you’re constantly having to “save” people close to you and fix their problems all the time.
- you find yourself sucked into pointless fighting or debating regularly.
- you find yourself more invested in a person than you should.
- you tell people how much you hate drama but seem to always be stuck in the middle of it.
- you spend a lot of time defending yourself for things you believe aren’t your fault.