You are in charge of your choices

You don’t need to feel that you owe anyone anything more than you want to give with your free and conscious heart.

If anyone invades your boundaries, be ready to walk away without fear or guilt.

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  • Not allowing you to speak or be heard.
  • Yelling at you.
  • Saying things that are derogatory about your integrity and character.
  • Gossiping about you.
  • Preying upon your sense of self and self-esteem
  • Using what you’ve told them in confidence against you
  • Lying to you
  • Criticizing you
  • Manipulating you
  • Mocking you
  • Making demands of your time
  • Bullying you
  • Lording a superior attitude over you
  • Moving into your personal space
  • Touching you without permission
  • Being inappropriate or too familiar towards you
  • Violating your privacy
  • Damaging or destroying your personal property
  • Threatening you with physical harm
Know thyself

Get to know yourself as best you can. Become familiar and comfortable with your own beliefs, emotions, feelings, and ideas.

Develop the capacity to know what needs to be done for yourself.

By setting your own boundaries, you are setting your limits about who can come into your space and what you expect of others once they’re there.

When you respect yourself, you should expect that others will treat you with respect. If they don’t, that’s a clear sign not to engage.

Stay away from anyone who thinks nothing of invading your space for their own end.

It’s a waste of your time and energy to try to fix other people because they’re not interested in becoming any other way than they are.

Understand that your boundaries are different from others.

You can learn to be emotionally attached to others while remaining psychologically and intellectually detached. This kind of space allows for personal expression while minimizing emotional and psychological entanglement.

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Decide the consequences

The best way to figure out your own boundaries and consequences when people cross them is by sitting quietly down with yourself and making this all about you. 

Keep in mind: boundaries are about honoring your needs, not about judging other people's choices.

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Poor Boundaries 

People who blame others for their own emotions and actions do so because they believe that if they constantly paint themselves as a victim, eventually someone will come to save them.

People who take the blame for other people’s emotions and actions are always looking to save someone.

Predictably, these two types of people are drawn strongly to one another, yet completely fail to meet each other's true need to feel loved. The real solution would be for both to take responsibility for their own problems.

  • Know that you have a right to personal boundaries.
  • Recognize that other people's needs and feelings are not more important than your own.
  • Learn to say no.
  • Identify the actions and behaviors that you find unacceptable.
  • Trust and believe in yourself.

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