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True confidence is a feeling of self-assurance that is grounded in an authentic experience of our own ability, perspective and sufficiency.
It’s a stable connection to the fact that we can do what we want to do, feel how we want to feel, and be who we want to be in this world.
Confidence is expressed most profoundly through our bodies. No matter how well we speak, the way we feel about ourselves will always manifest in our posture, our hand movements and our facial features.
So commit to strong, positive body language and make a conscious effort to form habits that make your nonverbal communication automatic.
Vocal tonality (the physical quality of our voice, our pitch, articulation, syntax, volume and intention) expresses and reinforces our sense of self.
Speak in statements, not questions, articulate and enunciate, and avoid the use of filler words.
Authenticity transforms normal insecurity into grounded confidence.
While faked confidence hides insecurity, weakness and self-doubt, true authenticity owns and acknowledges these less pleasant experiences in a way that ultimately enhances our sense of self.
Process-oriented confidence is the opposite of the “fake it till you make it” philosophy.
While the “fake it till you make it” approach suggests we should pretend our way toward true confidence, the process-oriented approach suggests we should become our way toward true confidence.
A truly confident man won’t get aggressive or arrogant, because those traits suggest someone is losing control. He knows keeping cool and talking in a calm, measured way is the quickest way to get respect.
Bass-heavy music can actually trick your mind into feeling more confident.
One study revealed job-interview candidates who listened to bass-heavy rap music ended up exhibiting more confidence and performing better than those who didn't.
The imposter syndrome is the feeling that you are unworthy of your accomplishments at work and that you will be exposed as a fake. People who experience imposter syndrome perceive it as harmful to their success.
But the behaviours that the 'imposters' show to compensate for their self-doubt can make them better at their jobs and motivate them to outperform their non-imposter peers in interpersonal skills.