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The art of disagreement
Mastering the art of considerate disagreement means expressing your beliefs without shutting down the discussion or angering the other side.
For this to happen, you have to listen more, be willing to change your perspective on disagreement and learn to better your arguments.
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“I’ve seen people who agree on the major issues waste hours arguing over details. It’s more important to do the big things well than the small perfectly.”
RAY DALIO
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“I never allow myself to have an opinion on anything that I don’t know the other side’s argument better than they do.”
CHARLIE MUNGER
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Listening to the other side
We tend to focus on what we're going to say next in conversation and we fail to understand the counterargument and really listen to the other party.
Demonstrate that you're listening by reframing their position in your words and then ask for confirmation that you have it right.
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Escape your own bias
Take the time to gather facts that support the opposite point of view.
Ask yourself, “What if I’m wrong?”. This will strengthen your argument by anticipating questions, or you’re going to learn something new and take a more nuanced position.
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Disagreement is healthy
It is essential for success. It’s the hallmark of an engaged and involved team member. And it opens the way for testing and improving new ideas.
It should also be treated as a chance to built trust and show mutual understanding.
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Present your ideas inclusively
Disagreements can create an “us versus them” mentality with clear winners and losers.
A better approach is to ditch the entire notion of winners and losers. Instead, you’re both on the same team working toward a better solution.
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“You are not your idea, and if you identify too closely with your ideas, you will take offense when they are challenged.”
ED CATMULL
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The Art of Productive Disagreement
Most of us are weary of disagreement, so a claim that disagreement can be productive is intriguing.
Some of the common misconceptions with respect to disagreement are:
- Arguments are bad.
- They change people’s minds.
- They come to an end.
Ways To Approach A Coversation
We go into conversations assuming there will be a disagreement, but if we shift our assumptions, we will experience a much better interaction:
- Assume goodwill from your partner in each interaction.
- Approach interactions with understanding and a desire to learn from the othe...
Once you've agreed your beliefs are in progress, they aren't entrenched as your identity
- We've agreed that our beliefs are in progress and under construction
- You are no longer certain about your beliefs
- You have to be willing to hear the other side in order to make progress
- Your identity becomes about acknowledging uncertainty, how good are you at...
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