It's far better to be yourself and risk having people not like you than to suffer the stress and tension that comes from pretending to be someone you’re not, or professing to like something that you don’t.

Living with integrity

Self Improvement

It's the process of trying to guess what other people want and what will make them like us, and then acting accordingly.It's actually a way of manipulating people's&nbsp;perceptions of us.

People pleasing

We don’t actually fool anyone when we're trying to look happy, but our real feelings are far from positive.Our expressions expose us and are registered and mirrored by other people. So trying to suppress negative emotions&nbsp;actually increases stress levels of both people more than if we had shared our distress in the first place.

We're not that good at pretending

The act of pretending translates into a big conscious effort of willpower that&nbsp;drains your brain of its ability to focus and do deep work.Self-control is like a muscle, and like any muscle, when used repeatedly, it tires and will perform poorly.&nbsp;You'll also feel a lot of stress and anxiety in your body.

We find it harder to focus

People ask me all the time what the secret to happiness is. "If you had to pick just one thing," they wonder, "what would be the most important thing for leading a happy life?" Ten years ago, I would have told you a regular gratitude practice was the most important thing-and while that is still my favorite instant happiness booster, my answer has changed.

People pleasing

What Are Your Values?: - Deciding What's Most Important in Life

Why you need to define your values

Defining Your Values

The Only Thing You Need To Be Happy

3 kinds of happiness that don’t ever last

If you aren’t growing, you are dying

The 15 Most Common Habits of the World's Happiest People

Think of Yourself Less

Be Busy, but Not Rushed

Be Proactive About Your Relationships