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People Pleasing

People who are driven by pleasing people are neither honest or authentic because they may say yes to things they don't really want to do just because they do not want to disagree because of the fear of being disliked.

If you find yourself to be a people-pleaser, rethink your values and ask yourself these:

  • What do I stand for?
  • What is most important to me in life?
  • What is not negotiable?

When you have your core values clear, you won't be easily shaken by other's opinions or needs.

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