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The Only Thing We Control Is Our Reaction

Maintaining control over our lives

The occurrence of a bad event does not necessarily have to result in sadness.

If we take away the power of external events and reclaim our internal power to decide, gage, and assign value, we maintain control of our lives.

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The Only Thing We Control Is Our Reaction

The Only Thing We Control Is Our Reaction

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Eleanor Roosevelt

Eleanor Roosevelt

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”

External events don't harm us

Even if this sounds counterintuitive, only our responses to them can have this effect.

These events only have the power that we choose to give them. They only destroy us because we think they are destructive, and allow them to run our lives.

Maintaining control over our lives

The occurrence of a bad event does not necessarily have to result in sadness.

If we take away the power of external events and reclaim our internal power to decide, gage, and assign value, we maintain control of our lives.

Cicero

Cicero

“When misfortunes appear on the horizon, we exaggerate then once more, because of the pain they are causing us. These feelings compel us to put blame on the circumstances when what we ought to be blaming is a deficiency in our own character.”

We're not immune to loss

We are going to experience negative emotions in life (anger, sadness, heartbreak, etc.) 

And recognizing that our mindset is not at the mercy of external events, but rather something that is under our own control can go a long way in fostering a healthier, happier outlook.

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