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Even if this sounds counterintuitive, only our responses to them can have this effect.
These events only have the power that we choose to give them. They only destroy us because we think they are destructive, and allow them to run our lives.
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The occurrence of a bad event does not necessarily have to result in sadness.
If we take away the power of external events and reclaim our internal power to decide, gage, and assign value, we maintain control of our lives.
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We are going to experience negative emotions in life (anger, sadness, heartbreak, etc.)
And recognizing that our mindset is not at the mercy of external events, but rather something that is under our own control can go a long way in fostering a healthier, happier outlook.
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An 'emotionally healthy' mindset can be developed by the self-transcendent emotions like empathy, gratitude and wonder, which are focused on others.
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... by acknowledging and expecting it can and will hurt.
To overcome the sting of rejection, stop trying to avoid feeling that stings. Stop pretending your unaffect...
Make a contract with your partner, family, and friends allowing them to catch you in the throes of verbal diarrhea when you were unfairly treated.
Work out three or four different activities that will distract you and turn your attention to something productive.
... you expose yourself to.
We all have a different threshold of the amount of rejection we can handle. Wisely considering how much more you can handle is essential.
Before you take another step forward, ask yourself if you have the right resources and support in place to catch you.