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This Is The Most Powerful Way To Make Your Life Fantastic - Barking Up The Wrong Tree

Values, Not Lifehacks

Tech is only a tool. How you use it can make it good or not so good.

We don't need a lifehack to control our phone. We need values to ensure that technology serves us, and not the other way around.

Find out what you value in life. Then ask how technology supports those values. Set rules that work for them. If you don't, tech will fill that void by default.

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This Is The Most Powerful Way To Make Your Life Fantastic - Barking Up The Wrong Tree

This Is The Most Powerful Way To Make Your Life Fantastic - Barking Up The Wrong Tree

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Core Factors In A Happy Life

Research shows 70% of your happiness comes from quality relationships with your family, friends, co-workers, and neighbors.

Yet, the biggest factor that interferes with your relationships is your phone. The internet. Social media.

Reverse FOMO

FOMO is the fear of missing out, especially the latest internet hysteria. But FOMO is not the real problem - Reverse FOMO is.  By always being online, you are missing out on real life. An overwhelming online presence is replacing all the things that really make a good life.

Values, Not Lifehacks

Tech is only a tool. How you use it can make it good or not so good.

We don't need a lifehack to control our phone. We need values to ensure that technology serves us, and not the other way around.

Find out what you value in life. Then ask how technology supports those values. Set rules that work for them. If you don't, tech will fill that void by default.

Try A Long Walk Without A Phone

Many of us are scared of being alone with our own thoughts. Our phones are our constant companion to eliminate all moments of solitude.

But self-reflection helps us to gain insight into our values, life, and how we want to live. So, go out and take a long walk to think, without the technology that can interrupt you.

When You're Offline

Historically, when people had more leisure time, they used to engage in quality activities or community engagements like hobbies, or non-professional intellectual pursuits like poetry and novels.

What hobby might bring you more joy or pride? When you know the answer, it will be much easier to curb your tech use.

Make Awesome Plans

Becoming a digital minimalist makes you more invested in real-world conversations. Friendships are deeper than a social media comment on a baby picture. 

Try your best not to socialize digitally anymore. Only use texting for logistics to arrange a get together where you do activities together. Play Monopoly or conquer a neighboring village.

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