Personal values: how knowing yourself can guide your actions - Ness Labs
Shaping your personal values
Your values will not be fixed; they change throughout your life. While this process happens naturally, you can proactively decide to shape your values.
Confront your values to actual experiences. When you notice that you live differently to your value, consider whether your value really reflects the way you want to behave in the world.
Develop self-awareness. Accept that sometimes your values are at fault and you may have to replace it with a better value.
Actively question your values. You don't need to wait until experience contradicts your values. You can challenge your values at any time at a more abstract level.
Next time you experience a tip-of-the-tongue state, don't retrieve the information from memory. Instead, look up the correct answer. Repeat it a few times or write it down to help with encoding.
People that experience the tip-of-the-tongue state often suffer from incorrect practice time. Instead of learning the correct work, they are learning the mistake itself. For example, some music students who claim to practice diligently can get worse over time. This is because they keep on repeating the same mistakes, instead of using deliberate practice. They actually train themselves to make mistakes.
Pharmacological. These altered states include short-term changes caused by psychoactive substances, such as LSD MDMA, cannabis, cocaine, opioids, and alcohol.
Psychological. Hypnosis, meditation, and music can lead to altered mental states.
Physical and physiological. An altered state of consciousness is achieved through sleep, where dreams dissociate one from reality.
Pathological. A traumatic experience causing brain damage can lead to an altered state of consciousness. Other sources include epileptic or psychotic episodes.
Spontaneous. Daydreaming and mind wandering can cause altered states.
The limits of our memory serve us well in many respects.
Limited memories are useful trade-off to allow us to function and survive. We have thousands of memories, for example, of tables. If we recall all the events related to a table, it will create mass confusion with data overload.
Flawed memories may also help us to cope with our past and navigate our future. It may give us more confidence in our past decisions or make us remember happier events.