There is a state of emotional darkness, or comfortable numbness as the Pink Floyd sings. You can get into it and we all know how: sugar, alcohol, nicotine, maybe a little stronger stuff. but why? For God’s sake? Why? it’s like cutting off your own leg that scratches your finger.

Okay good but what is the alternative? because after all to be such an emotional softie who’s just looking for a way to avoid emotional conflicts by serving others and not standing up for himself is also not good. obviously. So what?