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The Attachment Style Results

Each of the four statements(In the previous stash) corresponds to one of the four main attachment styles recognised by psychologists.

If you chose:

(a) this suggests you have a secure style;

(b) an anxious style;

(c) an avoidant style;

(d) a disorganised style. 

There is a secure attachment style, and there are three insecure styles: anxious, avoidant and disorganised. Key to them all is that you often expect to get treated based on how you got treated.

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Your Attachment Style Has Its Roots in Your Childhood

Your Attachment Style Has Its Roots in Your Childhood

Early life experiences with our key caregivers shape our expectations – consciously and unconsciously – of what to expect from relationships throughout our lives. 

Unless you understand and seek to change your attachment style, you will...

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Identify Your Current Attachment Style: Four Statements

Identify Your Current Attachment Style: Four Statements

The first step in understanding why you behave the way you do in relationships is to identify your current attachment style. 

Select which of these four statements you feel best describes you:

a) It is easy for me to become emotionally close to others.

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The Anxious Attachment Style

The Anxious Attachment Style

An anxious attachment style (sometimes called ‘preoccupied’ or ‘ambivalent’) is often due to inconsistent or intrusive parenting, or a blurring of the boundaries between parent/care...

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Practise Spotting Your Patterns of Behaviour in Relationships – and Their Consequences

Practise Spotting Your Patterns of Behaviour in Relationships – and Their Consequences

You might not need a lot of reassurance in a relationship – perhaps because you currently have a more avoidant style. You know your partner loves you, and they should know you love them, so why keep saying it? But perhaps they do need a bit more reassurance than you, and you’ve seen how this mism...

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The Avoidant Attachment Style

The Avoidant Attachment Style

An avoidant attachment style (sometimes called ‘dismissive-avoidant’ or ‘fearful-avoidant’ depending on the accompanying behaviours) is linked to a caregiver’s consistent and repetitive rejection of the child’s emotional needs. If this was your experience, then as an adult you mi...

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Relationship Security: The Facts

Relationship Security: The Facts

Humans have a deep-seated need for love and nurturance from their parents or other carers, and if this care is absent or unreliable, it can lead to long-term problems.

Ultimately, your attachment style shapes how much you trust others, whether you fear abandonment, and whether you keep your...

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The Disorganized Attachment Style

The Disorganized Attachment Style

The disorganised style (sometimes called ‘disoriented’) – is best thought of as being trapped in, and responding to, a terrifying and incredibly confusing stay/go paradox, where the caregiver (and future potential friends or partners) are both the source of occasional comfort but...

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Collaborate with Your Partner to Change Your Attachment Style

Collaborate with Your Partner to Change Your Attachment Style

 If you’re anxious, ask for patience and tolerance from your partner, while at the same time committing to acting less from that anxious place. If your partner understands that you’re anxious, it might help them to know that it won’t help you to constantly reassure you that they love you...

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Examine The Attachment Style Of Others

Examine The Attachment Style Of Others

Attachment is fundamentally a science of relationships. Yes, we want to know more about ourselves, but we also want to influence those we care about to feel emotionally safe in their relationship with us.

So, once you feel like you understand your own attachment behaviours, start ...

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The Secure Attachment Style

The Secure Attachment Style

If you’re fortunate enough to have a secure attachment style, your primary caregivers were probably ‘good enough’  and you are well placed to enjoy healthy relationships in life.

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Create a Virtuous Circle (ideally in Collaboration with Your Partner/friends)

It goes something like this: (a) notice when you’re on autopilot – for instance, lapsing into needy or avoidant behaviours; (b) pause to reflect; (c) do something different; (d) notice the results; and, if they were positive, (e) apply what you’ve learned in future situations.

You can also ...

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Work Towards Changing Your Attachment Style

Work Towards Changing Your Attachment Style

If you’re struggling to make the changes you want to make in your relationships and you keep making the same mistakes, take a beat and bring yourself back to this key point: you can learn to handle emotions differently; you can change your attachment style; and you can change your expecta...

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Empathy For The Disorganized Partner

Empathy For The Disorganized Partner

Partners with a disorganised attachment style lack a coherent approach toward relationships. On the one hand, they want to love and be loved. But they are afraid to get close to anyone because they have a strong fear based on experience – that those closest to them are the most dangerous and will...

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Keep Practising New Ways of Engaging with Others

If you have an anxious attachment style, practise being direct and authentic with others, even though it feels hard. If you struggle to calm yourself without another person to help, there are many technique...

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