The weight that comes with the feeling of failure is not caused by the reality of the failure itself, but by the personal perception of that failure and what that means to us.

There could be loads of reasons that we may not achieve what we wish to. We fail. We consider this a setback. Setbacks set us back. The biggest problem with a setback is that it requires more than the previous level of motivation to try again. We tried with a certain level of motivation, but could not succeed. Next time, it requires more self-convincing, more motivation, more efforts, more self-limiting beliefs to unshackle, more doubts and questions to overcome, more emotions to work on...to be able to get back on to our journey of life.

Setbacks

The only perception we have control over is our own. How we perceive our world influences our attitude, which in turn affects what we attract. If we perceive a world of abundance, our actions and attitude attract abundance. If we perceive our life as lacking what we need, we worry more about conserving what we have rather than attaining those things we want and need. Our brains automatically process what we worry about as a threat. This Then changes our perception and even our body chemistry.

Perception

Awareness is the state of being conscious of something. More specifically, is the ability to directly know and perceive, to feel, or to be cognizant of events. The concept is often synonymous with consciousness. Awareness of our inner patterns of perception and reaction is the first conscious step towards transformation.Transformation does not lie in changing the past or controlling our environment. It lies within. What happens to us is not important. What happens in us is important.

Awareness & Transformation

Once Mahatma Gandhi said, "It's the action, not the fruit of the action, that's important. You have to do the right thing. It may not be in your power, may not be in your time, that there will be any fruit. But that doesn't mean you stop doing the right thing. You never know what results come from your action. But if you do nothing, there will be no result."We may be equipped with tons of knowledge. We may have the best of skills, the most positive of attitudes and the strongest of beliefs. But if we wait for the right time and just keep planning, nothing is going to come out of it.

Stop Waiting For The Right Time

Our comfort zone is a dangerous place. It prevents us from improving, it stops us from achieving all the things we are capable of achieving and it makes us miserable. So, if we decide to bring about a change in our life, we need to shake ourselves out of our comfort zone.And this starts by asking ourselves some tough questions, questions that we have been refusing to acknowledge. We need to ask them to ourselves and we need to answer them also to ourselves. So, why do we resist? We resist because it makes us uncomfortable.

Comfort Zone: A Dangerous Place

Any change that we desire requires constant learning and the skillful application of what we learn, to adjust our goals, strategies, and behaviors. But the most important learning we need to do involves learning from our own experience. This takes a whole different set of skills than those involved in absorbing what other people can tell us. The ancient Greeks had a word for this– praxis.Praxis is a four-stage process of:<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Observing our actions and their effects</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Analyzing what we observe</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Strategizing an action plan</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Taking action</li></ul>

Praxis

Letting go is difficult. We get stuck in the same thought patterns over and over. We cling to and replay the past again and again in our minds. The desperate attempt to hold on to things limits our capability to experience happiness and joy in the present moment. Life is all about continuous change. No matter how hard we try to hold on to things, we will sooner or later be confronted with changes, whether we like it or not. The earlier we cease out attempts to own and control the environment we are living in, the faster we open up ourselves to new possibilities.

Letting Go

Through self-observation, mindfulness automatically streams into our life. The moment we realize we are not being mindful– we are mindful! We are now watching the mind instead of being swept off in its current. Any time we watch thoughts, we are being mindful. The key is– Don't believe your thoughts. Don't take them all seriously. Watch them, question them. In this way, thoughts and conditioned, reactive ways of living and thinking lose their hold over us. We no longer have to play them out.

Mindfulness: Watch The Mind

Action is the basis of all success. Every action may not give success but at the same time, no success is possible without action.

I Wanna Grow Up Once Again is a diverse collection of thoughtful and also thought provoking insights that deeply connects us with our inner self.

Why do I always feel that I am not good enough? Why do I always feel like a failure? What is holding me back? I don’t know how to try again. Why do I land up with the same old default behaviors? Do we not feel at some point of time in our life … I wanna grow up … once again? The book tries to connect us to certain deeper parts of us with thought-provoking issues like: • Why we don’t do what we want to do? • Why do we hold on? Why do we not let go!? • We all make efforts, but how do we handle setbacks and burnouts? • How to change our perceptions and break our patterns? It is an inward journey into how we have lived our life, till now and how we choose to live from now! “What happens in us is more important than what happens to us!”

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Why do I always feel that I am not good enough? Why do I always feel like a failure? What is holding me back? I don’t know how to try again. Why do I land up with the same old default behaviors? Do we not feel at some point of time in our life … I wanna grow up … once again? The book tries to connect us to certain deeper parts of us with thought-provoking issues like: • Why we don’t do what we want to do? • Why do we hold on? Why do we not let go!? • We all make efforts, but how do we handle setbacks and burnouts? • How to change our perceptions and break our patterns? It is an inward journey into how we have lived our life, till now and how we choose to live from now! “What happens in us is more important than what happens to us!”

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