1.Your attachment style has its roots in your childhood.

The Eastern philosophy, which includes Zen, teaches us about desiring nothing and being attached to nothing or no one.

Being unattached to our pleasures, family and the good things in life was easy thousands of years ago, when there were few material possessions for the average person.

Deep down we know we're responsible for our situations, but accepting that it's hard.  Because it means we’re the ones that have to change and take responsibility.

Denial feels bad, but it hurts a little less than accepting the truth of your role in your own life.

• The purpose of all our reading and studying is to aid us in the pursuit of the good life. At some point, we must put our books aside and take action. So that, as Seneca put it, the "words become works." There is an old saying that a "scholar made is a soldier spoiled." We want to be both sch...