If-then plans

Strong extraverts can happily strike up a conversation with strangers and consequently become practised at small talk and establishing new relationships.

Consider if-then plans, such as ‘If I am buying groceries, then I will say hello to the check-out assistant.’‘If it’s a Tuesday, then I will ask one of my colleagues to join me for a coffee.’ Write them down somewhere you’ll notice them.

To learn how to strike up a conversation with strangers, come up with several hooks or memorable talking points related to your current interests so that you can answer "What do you do?"

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Boost your optimism

Extraverts are bolder than average because they believe events will turn out well. Techniques that can help you to boost your optimism are:

The best possible self intervention: For 5 - 15 minutes, picture yourself in the future in a scenario where everything in life has gon...

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‘Outside in’ strategies

Use situations and relationships around you to shape your levels of extraversion.

Consider how certain people and circumstances tend to bring out different sides of your character. Being strategic about the situations you put yourself in and the people...

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Consider your overarching values and goals

You are far more likely to succeed if your desire for change serve a more meaningful value or goal. Research confirms that changing goals and priorities often precede personality trait change and not the other way around.

Therefore it's worth reflecting on why you wish to come out of your s...

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Warming up for change

Some ways to help you focus your intentions:

Talk to close friends and/or family members about your goal of becoming more extraverted. Ask for their advice.
Observe your own behaviours. In which situations could you be more extraverted than you currently are?
Write dow...

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Extraversion increases engagement with the world

Being introverted can keep you from new experiences and meeting new people. Studies show that we feel happier when we act more extraverted than usual because doing so increases our engagement with the world and our connectedness to others, which are basic human needs.

For example, you go to...

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Mindset for change

Many of our behaviour is a profoundly ingrained part of who we are. But others are learned over the years from the many experiences in life.

Rather than waiting passively for life to change you, you can change your habitual ways of being. With persistence and motivation, you can take intent...

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Extraversion-introversion tendencies

A strong extravert is not only chatty and sociable but also optimistic, assertive, energetic and receptive to positive emotions. Consequently, extraverts tend to be happier in life and more confident, which can benefit their careers and health.

A strong introvert

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