Inside Your Mind

The way we present ourselves to others cannot be changed by others. We have to want to change for the better ourselves, for our self.

Unrealistic expectations of others can be shown by shouting, getting frustrated easily, angry or u...

Be proactive and make it work to get the best out of life. Change what needs to be changed of your reality and the world you have made for your self, so that you won't be resigned to suffering any further. 

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It is tough for all those involved when someone has become a Snow White sufferer. Escaping this means a real change of approach in life.

The sufferer must be helped to see exactly how they are presenting themselves to other...

They try to show you that you are selfish and owe them greatly. If challenged, they either become aggressive and accusatory or they become suitably depressed and tearful. Ofcourse, its your fault that they are depressed and tearful!

These t...

A basic understanding of this mindset - being an innocent, passive victim at the hands of others and circumstance, completely devoid of any responsibility/accountability and has no power to change things.

The general behaviours and beliefs displayed are as ...

Brain scanners show the blood supply in your brain going to the area that is being used. When you think calmly and rationally then we see the blood going to the frontal area, the Human in your head, and you become the person you want to be and truly are.

When you become emotional an...

When two people communicate together, either person is in Chimp mode or in Human mode, alternating between these modes very quickly.

Chimp mode = emotionally charged conversation and not necessarily...

The Chimp is an emotional machine which we all possess. It thinks independently from us and can make decisions for us. It offers emotional thoughts and feelings that can be very constructive or very destructive! It is not either good or bad, it is a Chimp.

The Chim...

Want to understand whats inside your head and how it works?

The human brain is complex so I will simplify it for you.

Within the Chimp Management Model, we outline three parts to the brain:

• Frontal -

When people have accidents that damage the frontal lobe or where they have a disorder or illness affecting the frontal lobe, their personality alters.

Effectively, the Human part of the brain stops working and the new personality that presents is the Chimp. People a...

The frontal (Human) and the limbic (Chimp) the emotional machine, are not always in agreement with eachother.

Either one of these parts of your brain can run your life for you, although they try to work together, it is a problematic task.

The Human and the Ch...

Having a Chimp is like owning a dog. You are not responsible for the nature of the dog but you are responsible for managing it and keeping it well behaved. Stop and think about this as it is crucial to your happiness and success in life.

The Chimp within yo...

If you don't get the centre of the Square right, then you are most likely wasting your time and not doing your self any favours.

This 'never ending wrong person' trail is VERY COMMON.

If someone has ...

The centre of the Square contains the 'right person'.

The corners include:

• The right time
• The right place
• The right agenda
• The ri...

You may fall into the trap of moaning and complaining to lots of random people, inadverdently making your self the problem.

Speaking to the right person can save alot of time, effort and emotional stress! The usual reason ...

How many times have you talked to yourself? Reassured yourself or had battles within your own head?

You often have thoughts and feelings you don't want and even carry out behaviours that you know are not really what you want to do. So why do you do...