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Think you're special? That just proves you're normal | Oliver Burkeman

Normal is good

Don't feel repelled by the normal. The ordinary is what shapes you. To dislike the normal means disdain for most of what happens in your life.  But that is normal too. However, it's a recipe for a joyless life.

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Think you're special? That just proves you're normal | Oliver Burkeman

Think you're special? That just proves you're normal | Oliver Burkeman

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2018/may/04/think-special-just-proves-you-are-normal

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Key Ideas

We are predictable

Most of us are more normal and far less special than we'd like to believe. 

Thinking you are different is just one more way in which you're normal. 

Illusory superiority

Your intelligence, your creativity, the degree to which the world has mistreated you are all normal and less quirky than you think.

Most people think they're above average drivers or they are unbiased. Or they believe they are special in a negative way. This all is known as illusory superiority.

Normal is good

Don't feel repelled by the normal. The ordinary is what shapes you. To dislike the normal means disdain for most of what happens in your life.  But that is normal too. However, it's a recipe for a joyless life.

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