We unfairly judge ourselves on the specifics of the conversation while we judge the other person on warmth and friendliness.
Based on the referenced study, the actual likeness is about 12% higher than the perception.
Audience Tuning Effect: Tendency to adjust our language and context based on who we are talking to
Saying is Believing Effect: When we take audience tuning too far, we begin to muddy our own reality, memory, and opinions
Thanks, but No Thanks Experiment: We overestimate how awkward it is to receive a compliment and we underestimate how good a compliment makes us feel
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