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Perfectionism is killing us

Perfectionism x1000

Social Media acts as the biggest culprit in amplifying perfectionism as youngsters can constantly compare their looks and their lives to others in easily measurable ways.

There is an increased expectation from our family and our peers to be perfect in all aspects of our lives.

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Perfectionism is killing us

Perfectionism is killing us

https://www.vox.com/the-highlight/2019/11/27/20975989/perfect-mental-health-perfectionism

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Perfectionist Behavior

Perfectionist behavior is a broad personality trait prevalent in today's generation. It is defined as a hypercritical relationship with one's self.

While setting high standards for oneself can be deemed as a positive quality, but perfectionism more or less assumes that we are flawed or defective.

Perfectly Curated Life

Perfectionism is a growing cultural phenomenon that has engulfed a large set of people including celebrities. Some of the causes are:

  • Modern parenting
  • Competitive economy
  • Consumerism and advertising
  • Social Media.

Perfectionism x1000

Social Media acts as the biggest culprit in amplifying perfectionism as youngsters can constantly compare their looks and their lives to others in easily measurable ways.

There is an increased expectation from our family and our peers to be perfect in all aspects of our lives.

Kinds of Perfectionism

Perfectionism comes in three types:

  • Self-Oriented Perfectionism: Demanding perfectionism from oneself.
  • Other-oriented Perfectionism: Demanding perfectionism from others.
  • Socially Prescribed Perfectionism: Feeling external pressure from the outside world to be perfect.

Dark Side of Perfectionism

New research shows chronic perfectionism, the kind that doesn't go away as one gets older, leads to suicidal tendencies.

Early warning signs are when people start to take extraordinary or costly measures to hide distress or appear perfect.

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Perfectionism

Perfectionism is a personality trait, which can be an endless pursuit of high standards in every area of our lives, but can also be a 'disorder' like condition or a phobia, akin to '

Constant Mental Punishment

The trait of perfectionism constantly makes a person judge, compare and criticize suboptimal decisions or mistakes in any aspect of the daily routine.

A person starts having mental difficulties, striving to do everything the perfect way, but falling short eventually.

The Voice In The Head

Perfectionism is a voice in our head, constantly fed by the media and society's ideals, coaxing us into doing things in the best way, to get the desired results. 

It is useful in its purpose but in extremities can have negative effects on the body and mind.

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Perfectionists tend to set goals of unreasonable excellence with no learning curve or room for error.

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