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The Slacker's Guide to New Year's Resolutions That Stick

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If you miss a day or two in your daily habit forming a routine, it's ok. Get back to it.

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The Slacker's Guide to New Year's Resolutions That Stick

The Slacker's Guide to New Year's Resolutions That Stick

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Gretchen Rubin

Gretchen Rubin

“What you do every day matters more than what you do once in a while.”

One Step Daily

Most people do not stick to their New Year's resolutions because they focus on the entire task.

By just focusing on the daily small steps, one is able to create a successful daily routine.

Keep It Practical

Dial back your goal for the New Year to be a more practical, pragmatic one, and your chances of success will rise dramatically.

Don't be too hard on yourself.

Be Specific

Don't have vague resolutions with no direction for the New Year. Have clear, specific goals for your daily routine like "run around the park for 10 to 20 minutes every morning."

10 Minutes

A ten-minute commitment to keeping a habit going can work wonders if done every day and is easier to maintain.

Trial Period

If committing to a new habit for a whole year seems overwhelming, have a 30 Day Trial and see if you stick to it.

Be Nice to Yourself

If you miss a day or two in your daily habit forming a routine, it's ok. Get back to it.

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