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How to Be Content in Life: Three Paradoxes | Mark Manson

The Paradox of Relationships

The Paradox of Relationships

A relationship is always in the doldrums as it is swinging to one of the two extremes: no care, or too much care.

Things go wrong when we:

  • Keep ourselves as the centre of the Universe.
  • Keep our partner as the centre of the Universe.

This can be solved by striking a balance: don't neglect your partner but also don't neglect yourself.

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