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How to be persistent at work without being obnoxious

Reaching out

  • Consider reaching out to someone with different 'touches', such as a phone call, email, written letter, or an appropriate gift. 
  • Pace your follow-ups. Every two weeks is a good starting place, and if they don't respond, try a monthly follow-up. 
  • Give them an 'out' if they need one.
  • Keep correspondence light and ongoing, instead of only reaching out when you need help.

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