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Dwelling on past mistakes

Dwelling on past mistakes

If you’re constantly reliving past mistakes in your head, it’s going to be tough to feel confident about yourself in the present.

Give yourself permission to let it go. And then work like hell to keep letting it go, each time it comes up. Forgiveness is a commitment, not a decision.

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Quit hiding from what you really want

Quit hiding from what you really want

It’s hard to feel confident in yourself when you’re constantly denying yourself.

Some self-denial is perfectly healthy. But if you’ve gotten into the habit of always denying your own wants and needs, it shouldn’t be a surprise that you don’t feel very confident ask...

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Put the breaks on catastrophizing

Put the breaks on catastrophizing

3. Put the breaks on catastrophizing

Even if you know intellectually that the worst case isn’t likely to happen, if you constantly tell yourself it is, that’s how you’ll feel.

It’s difficult to feel confident if you’re constantly worryi...

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You can be critical without criticizing.

When you criticize yourself in response to a mistake, you create an unrealistic view of yourself that’s almost always too negative. And, unsurprisingly, this isn’t great for your confidence.

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Second-guessing yourself

Second-guessing yourself

  • Low confidence leads to second-guessing, but second-guessing also leads to low confidence.
  • Stop second-guessing yourself in the moment and schedule time to do it deliberately.
  • Confidence and humility are not mutually exclusive.

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All You Need to Know

All You Need to Know

If you want to feel more confident, start thinking about what habits you have that are interfering with your confidence, then work to remove them.

  • Coping with anxiety
  • Reassurance-seeking
  • Catastrophizing
  • Not asking for what you really want
  • Trying to contr...

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Trusting your feelings

Trusting your feelings

Your feelings will lead you in the wrong direction at least as often as the right one.

Listen to your emotions, but don’t trust them blindly.

Treat your emotions like a friend. When they give you advice, listen to it. But be prepared to reject it o...

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Let go of things you can’t control

Let go of things you can’t control

A good way to never feel confident is to always be failing. And a good way to always be failing is to always be trying to control the uncontrollable.

Of course, it’s often hard to distinguish what we can control from what we can’t—especially if we really want to be able to control it…

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Avoid reassurance-seeking

Avoid reassurance-seeking

If you always outsource your emotional struggles to others, you deprive yourself of the opportunity to be confident.

A big part of emotional maturity—and the confidence that results from—comes from taking responsibility for your own feelings.

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Stop trying to cope with anxiety

Stop trying to cope with anxiety

When you immediately try and get rid of your anxiety by applying coping skills to make it go away, you teach your brain to view anxiety as dangerous.

So stop coping with your anxiety and learn to accept it.

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Compromising on your boundaries

Compromising on your boundaries

When you respect yourself enough to maintain good boundaries, confidence is the natural result.

Confidence rests on the foundation of self-respect. And self-respect comes from setting (and enforcing!) healthy boundaries that protect your wants, needs, and values. But enfor...

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Self-confidence is a feeling of trust in your abilities, qualities, and judgment. Research suggests that confidence is important to health and psychological well-being. Learn how to be more confident and some of the benefits of increasing your trust and belief in yourself.

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Positive Thinking

  • Recall positive life events.
  • Help others and remind yourself that you can impact the world and feel happier.
  • Practice mindfulness that makes you more present and increases happiness and resilience.
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  • Notice each activity that you’re doing as a separate event.
  • For every event, ask yourself what you can do to give it your full attention. Turn off your phone? Turn your body fully toward the person asking for your attention?

4. Hold on to Your Power

4. Hold on to Your Power

When you go in begging for a favour it is unattractive and people are less inclined to help. You must act as though the favour is essential, but not necessary for them to help. 

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