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Matthew I.

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You Are Enough

Many single women are starting to realize that they are not losing much by being single, but are gaining a lot of freedom and time to do self-care and pursue things that matter to them.

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Self-partnered: the sudden, surprising rise of the single positivity movement

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Love & Relationships

6 Steps to Turn Regret Into Self-Improvement

Stop beating yourself up, and turn your emotions into action. Have you ever felt like life would be better if you had taken a different path? If only you had pursued that job, ended that relationship sooner or moved to a new city, everything would be just perfect. Nonsense, of course.

nytimes.com

The disease of "What if"

It’s human nature to linger on feelings of regret. We look back and think that missed opportunities(real or not) could have set us on a different, possibly more rewarding path. Unchecked, th...

Turn regret into motivation

Acknowledge how you cope with regret: ignoring it makes it more present
Stop the regrets spiral, until you are ready to face the situation with more clarity
Revisit the story and identify practical lessons you can learn from it
Treat yourself like your ideal mentor would
Ask yourself why you feel regret and work backward to identify the values that are tied up in your feelings
The cure for anticipating regret isn’t feeling lousy or overthinking, but pursuing solutions, using the wisdom gained through self-reflection.

Turn regret into motivation

Acknowledge how you cope with regret: ignoring it makes it more present;
Stop the regrets spiral, until you are ready to face the situation with more clarity;
Revisit the story and identify practical lessons you can learn from it;
Ask yourself why you feel regret and work backward to identify the values that are tied up in your feelings;
The cure for anticipating regret isn’t feeling lousy or overthinking, but pursuing solutions, using the wisdom gained through self-reflection.

Emiliano L.

@emil32

How to Have a Better Relationship - Well Guides

Good relationships don’t happen overnight. They take commitment, compromise, forgiveness and most of all — effort. Here we offer the latest in relationship science, expert advice, fun quizzes and helpful tips to help you build a stronger bond with your partner.

nytimes.com

Commitment, Love, and Romance

Good relationships take commitment and effort.

The challenge for couples is cultivating a mature and trusting love that is the key to a lasting relationship.

Finding Your Love Style

Romantic love: Based on passion and sexual attraction
Best friends: Fondness and deep affection
Logical: Practical feelings based on shared values, financial goals, religion etc.
Playful: Elicit feelings by flirtation or feeling challenged
Possessive: Jealousy and obsession
Unselfish: Nurturing, kindness, and sacrifice

In our most committed relationship, we feel a combination of two or three different forms of love. Understanding what forms of love your partner appreciates can help your relationship.

Reignite Romance

Romantic and passionate love can fade over time and mature into a committed love.

Couples can rekindle the sparks of early courtship simply by doing something novel together. Studies show that partners who regularly share new experiences report greater boosts in marital happiness.

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Charlotte Wood

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Haruki Murakami: 'You have to go through the darkness before you get to the light'

The day before we meet in Manhattan, a woman stopped Haruki Murakami in Central Park, where he had come for his late-morning run. "Excuse me," she said, "but aren't you a very famous Japanese novelist?" A faintly odd way of putting the question, but Murakami responded in his usual equable manner.

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Haruki Murakami's world

The surreal stories written by famous Japanese novelist Haruki Murakami are read by millions: The peculiarity of the plot developments dampened by an emotional flatness can feel...

Haruki Murakami - Key moments

Haruki Murakami was born in 1949 in Kyoto, and instead of moving into a corporate career, he opened a jazz club in Tokyo.
A few years later, at a baseball stadium, it occurred to him that he could write a novel. That led to Hear the Wind Sing (1979), which won him a new writers' prize.
He was more like a black sheep in the Japanese literary world, partly because his books were too American-like.
Regardless of his critics, his commercial success continued to grow, hitting a high point in 1987 with Norwegian Wood, which sold 3,5m copies within a year of publication.

Daily writing routine

Haruki Murakami began to perfect the daily writing routine for which he is now as famous as for any single novel. He rises at 4 am to write for five or six hours, producing ten pages a day before a run of about six miles, and maybe a swim.

He believes that he has to be strong physically in order to write strong things.

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