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Self-partnered: the sudden, surprising rise of the single positivity movement
Happy Alone
- Due to society's pressure, people get into relationships that are increasingly turning toxic after a while.
- Many women and even men are discovering that the relationships have made them stressed out.
- Being single provides them with the independence, freedom and flexibility that they cannot imagine while being in a relationship.
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'Single' Positivity
A new breed of 'single-positive' personalities reject the notion that you need a partner to be happy and have a fulfilling life.
These 'self-partnering' individuals are seeing that being single is not being lonely or depressed, but is leading them to experience life as a positive and exciting ride.
You Are Enough
Many single women are starting to realize that they are not losing much by being single, but are gaining a lot of freedom and time to do self-care and pursue things that matter to them.
Do Stuff, Alone
The stigma of being spotted doing something alone by others is now diminishing.
People are traveling, eating, catching a movie, visiting the local pub, all alone and positively enjoying it.
Happy Alone
- Due to society's pressure, people get into relationships that are increasingly turning toxic after a while.
- Many women and even men are discovering that the relationships have made them stressed out.
- Being single provides them with the independence, freedom and flexibility that they cannot imagine while being in a relationship.
'Marrying' Yourself
Many books and movies reflect this 'singledom' lifestyle choice, and it is more than just traveling or dating alone.
Society has always favored a family, as opposed to an individual, so being single, and in a 'sologamy' mode is filled with challenges.
Do What You Want
It is a misguided and increasingly obsolete assumption that being in a relationship should be the norm.
Being in a relationship should be an option, not a necessity.
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Turn regret into motivation
- Acknowledge how you cope with regret: ignoring it makes it more present;
- Stop the regrets spiral, until you are ready to face the situation with more clarity;
- Revisit the story...
The disease of "What if"
It’s human nature to linger on feelings of regret. We look back and think that missed opportunities(real or not) could have set us on a different, possibly more rewarding path. Unchecked, these emotions become overwhelming sources of stress and anxiety.
Turn regret into motivation
- Acknowledge how you cope with regret: ignoring it makes it more present
- Stop the regrets spiral, until you are ready to face the situation with more clarity
- Revisit the story and identify practical lessons you can learn from it
- Treat yourself like your ideal mentor would
- Ask yourself why you feel regret and work backward to identify the values that are tied up in your feelings
- The cure for anticipating regret isn’t feeling lousy or overthinking, but pursuing solutions, using the wisdom gained through self-reflection.
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Causing unintentional harm
We all cause harm to our partner and the intimacy between us. We make mistakes that are foolish and unintentional and sometimes launch attacks on purpose.
When you wound another, apologi...
How to give an apology
A good apology takes two people: the giver and the receiver. An apology that heals is based on kindness, generosity, and compassion.
The recipient accepts it with grace and, in turn, offers forgiveness. Without forgiveness, it cannot heal.
The mindful apology in practice
- Repair: An apology that rebuilds intimacy should have three parts: you need to own the mistake, and then you need to repair the damage. Lastly, you need to vow to improve.
- Forgive: If you have been hurt, you may never completely forget, but you can choose to forgive. To decide to forgive means that you don't relive something that belongs to the past.
- Begin again: Unfinished business will accumulate. Let go of the small and the large wounds, so they don't pile up.