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Childhood Experiences That Lead to a More Purposeful Life

Purpose Is Essential

Purpose Is Essential

Purpose in life leads to greater well-being, hope and provides a sense of meaning in life.

The positive or negative experiences we have as children play an important role in our sense of purpose during our adult life.

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Childhood Experiences That Lead to a More Purposeful Life

Childhood Experiences That Lead to a More Purposeful Life

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Purpose Is Essential

Purpose in life leads to greater well-being, hope and provides a sense of meaning in life.

The positive or negative experiences we have as children play an important role in our sense of purpose during our adult life.

Experiencing Adversity

Individuals who experience adversity at an early age have a decreased sense of purpose according to research.

For some, it works in the reverse, with adversity providing them with the 'kick' they need to pursue a particular calling in life.

Experiencing Conflict

Relationship issues with parents lead to a decreased sense of purpose as the young person grows older.

Frequently fighting or arguing with parents drains the child's energy and enthusiasm.

Attachment and Separation

The bond between a parent and their child is called Parental Attachment.

Separation-Individuation is the identity development process once the young person turns towards adulthood.

This transformation plays a great role in the overall development of trust, autonomy and initiative.

Variety And Praise

  • Young adults, when exposed to a wide variety of activities tend to be interested in fostering noble purpose as they grow older.
  • Getting praise from parents and teachers also helps build a sense of purpose.

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