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When Chaos Strikes and Life Strips You of Your Identity
The Stages of Transition
The experience of Transition has 4 main stages:
- Disengagement: the feeling of separation from what is lost
- Disidentification: the destruction of the old identity
- Disenchantment: tearing out of the old reality
- Disorientation: the feeling of being lost and bewildered by the loss experienced.
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Exploring solitude
We tend to see solitude as grim and imprisoning. But in fact, the exact opposite can be true. Solitude can be seen as freeing, as an opportunity for exploration and growth.
You develop strengths you need
It’s always better to learn to stand on your own two legs. And once you are self-sufficient, then relying on someone else from time to time is an act of strength, not weakness.
Take small, consistent steps in the right direction, day in and day out.
Comfortable being alone
Learning to be comfortable with being alone does not mean you can’t be in a relationship. It means that you will not be codependent and entitled.
What we need is a healthy dose of self-sufficiency. The greatest gift you can give somebody is your own personal development.
Attraction Towards Stuff
Right from childhood, we are attracted to things that we can call our own, stuff like clothes, toys, bags, and books, later morphing into adult toys like cars, jewellery, furniture, Playstations an...
Kids And Possessions
- In children, attachment to certain objects like a favourite toy or blanket is common.
- They can rebel or move to tears when made to part with the object they are attached to, as a deep bond is formed.
- The object aids the kid’s transition to adulthood and is more common when they are not attached to their parents.
Attachment To Objects: Mid Adolescence
Being happy with material goods peaks during the formative years, when new experiences make the teenager’s already fragile self-esteem fluctuate. A sense of self-worth and respect makes them less prone to attachment towards materialist objects.
Pre-teen girls identify so much with material objects like clothes, that if they exchange it with each other, it feels that they have shared their identity.
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Network Effects
Network effects are the unseen forces that are guiding our destiny and exerting a powerful intervention on our lives, creating energy that escorts us down a path that is not always fully our intent...
Zipf's Law
Zipf's law is a mathematical probability that states that in a given set, the most frequently used data value (or word) is used twice as often as the next most common value. This is true in various statistical sets like income distribution in companies, internet traffic, phone calls received, and language.
One of the implications of this law is there are unconscious network forces and mathematical patterns governing our lives, with human beings just being nodes exchanging information.
Dinner Party Mathematics
When six to eight people are conversing at a dinner party, it is easy to focus on one conversation, but if the number is higher (say 15), then two-way conversations are more likely.
When groups get larger, the change is exponential, not linear, affecting one's social experience.