Mike Dooley

The key is to choose life, and not lose the ones we have, to what we have already lost.

Accepting the good and deciding to shift towards life during matters of death is an effective psychological technique, which is referred to as 'benefit finding'.

Studies after the 9/11 terror attacks showed that experiencing positive emotions created a buffer against depression. Resilient people can work out ways to include hope, love, humor, pride, inspiration, serenity into their lives.

We all can use nature therapy, inspirational movies, and books, music, and sports to fuel our positive beliefs and emotions.

Zipf's law is a mathematical probability that states that in a given set, the most frequently used data value (or word) is used twice as often as the next most common value. This is true in various statistical sets like income distribution in companies, internet traffic, phone calls received, and language.

One of the implications of this law is there are unconscious network forces and mathematical patterns governing our lives, with human beings just being nodes exchanging information.

When six to eight people are conversing at a dinner party, it is easy to focus on one conversation, but if the number is higher (say 15), then two-way conversations are more likely.

When groups get larger, the change is exponential, not linear, affecting one's social experience.

It’s always better to learn to stand on your own two legs.  And once you are self-sufficient, then relying on someone else from time to time is an act of strength, not weakness.

Take small, consistent steps in the right direction, day in and day out.

Learning to be comfortable with being alone does not mean you can’t be in a relationship. It means that you will not be codependent and entitled.  

What we need is a healthy dose of self-sufficiency. The greatest gift you can give somebody is your own personal development.