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You Absolutely Can Tackle the Big Things You've Been Avoiding : zen habits

A Transformed Life

Daily practice of something you are avoiding keeps you out of your comfort zone, makes you overcome your fears and helps you finally transform your life.

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You Absolutely Can Tackle the Big Things You've Been Avoiding : zen habits

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Problems Due to Avoidance

If we have something we don't want to tackle or face, we keep ourselves busy and distracted so we can avoid it.

  • Avoiding self-care and exercise leads to long-term health problems.
  • Avoiding things that need to be done leads to stress.
  • Things left uncared for lead to those problems getting worse.
  • Our friends and family may think of us as unreliable.
  • We lose our self-trust.

Taking on What You’re Avoiding

The way to tackle the work that you have been avoiding:

  • Make a list of things you have been avoiding.
  • Pick one high-priority thing in the list, and plan to execute it, even if it's a small action.
  • Tackle your task as early as possible.
  • Feel the sensation of fear.
  • Take action.
  • Celebrate your courage.

A Transformed Life

Daily practice of something you are avoiding keeps you out of your comfort zone, makes you overcome your fears and helps you finally transform your life.

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