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You Absolutely Can Tackle the Big Things You've Been Avoiding : zen habits
A Transformed Life
Daily practice of something you are avoiding keeps you out of your comfort zone, makes you overcome your fears and helps you finally transform your life.
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Problems Due to Avoidance
If we have something we don't want to tackle or face, we keep ourselves busy and distracted so we can avoid it.
- Avoiding self-care and exercise leads to long-term health problems.
- Avoiding things that need to be done leads to stress.
- Things left uncared for lead to those problems getting worse.
- Our friends and family may think of us as unreliable.
- We lose our self-trust.
Taking on What You’re Avoiding
The way to tackle the work that you have been avoiding:
- Make a list of things you have been avoiding.
- Pick one high-priority thing in the list, and plan to execute it, even if it's a small action.
- Tackle your task as early as possible.
- Feel the sensation of fear.
- Take action.
- Celebrate your courage.
A Transformed Life
Daily practice of something you are avoiding keeps you out of your comfort zone, makes you overcome your fears and helps you finally transform your life.
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The "One Thing"
We all have that 'One Thing' on our task list that is the most important thing on the list, that would be the most meaningful and yet we’re not doing it.
It's so meaningful and import...
Create a space
Put aside all the messages, social media, distractions, smaller tasks, organizing and tidying.
Instead, have a small space (even just 10-15 minutes) for this important task, and nothing else.
Meditate on meaning & feelings
For just a minute, mindfully drop into your body and feel your fear, resistance, frustration, overwhelm. Let yourself feel it fully.
Then let yourself feel the love you feel for those who you’ll be serving by doing this task.
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The biggest challenge to moving forward on anything
... is the transition to working on it. It almost always represents a shift from doing something comfortable to doing something uncomfortable.
We tend to think that getting tracti...
3 steps to transitioning
- Start with willpower. Willpower in a moment is much more reliable than willpower over long stretches of time (In some cases you just need to force yourself through a moment to get to the other side).
- Commit to repetition. Even if your mind starts protesting, ignore it and keep going.
- Benefit from adaptability. The mental and physical challenges will be so diminished, that you'll no longer experienced the transition as pain.
Get good at moving from comfort to discomfort
- Identify something important to you that you want to move ahead with.
- Identify the transition point to working on it. Examples of transition points are: Pick up the phone and dial (for a conversation); ask a question and then stop talking (for receiving feedback).
- Make the decision — set a time and place where you will get started (transition).
- Prime your emotional courage. Starting something hard will bring up feelings of discomfort and you will need to be prepared to feel things to move through it without stopping.
- Follow through without questioning.
- Repeat this every day.
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There isn’t enough time
A one size fits all solution
Instead of relying on a tool with all the bells and whistles, find out where you’re struggling and what’s essential for you.
For example, if scheduling is taking you away from product development, then you could use a scheduling tool that uses machine learning to automate most of your scheduling needs. If you’re wasting too much time on email, then consider using a tool to help tame your inbox.
Less anxiety
Time management is only useful when you’re aware of your limitations and don't let the system dictate your entire life.
In other words, when you don’t tread lightly (especially at first), time management can add more stress to your life.
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