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You Absolutely Can Tackle the Big Things You've Been Avoiding : zen habits

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You Absolutely Can Tackle the Big Things You've Been Avoiding : zen habits
By Leo Babauta What big task, project, chore, conversation have you been avoiding facing? It's one of the biggest problems in many people's lives - procrastination is one word for it, but I've found that "avoiding" is more accurate.

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Problems Due to Avoidance

If we have something we don't want to tackle or face, we keep ourselves busy and distracted so we can avoid it.

  • Avoiding self-care and exercise leads to long-term health problems.
  • Avoiding things that need to be done leads to stress.
  • Things left uncared for lead to those problems getting worse.
  • Our friends and family may think of us as unreliable.
  • We lose our self-trust.

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Taking on What You’re Avoiding

The way to tackle the work that you have been avoiding:

  • Make a list of things you have been avoiding.
  • Pick one high-priority thing in the list, and plan to execute it, even if it's a small action.
  • Tackle your task as early as possible.
  • Feel the sensation of fear.
  • Take action.
  • Celebrate your courage.

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A Transformed Life

Daily practice of something you are avoiding keeps you out of your comfort zone, makes you overcome your fears and helps you finally transform your life.

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The biggest challenge to moving forward on anything

... is the transition to working on it. It almost always represents a shift from doing something comfortable to doing something uncomfortable.

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  • Commit to repetition. Even if your mind starts protesting, ignore it and keep going.
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Get good at moving from comfort to discomfort

  1. Identify something important to you that you want to move ahead with.
  2. Identify the transition point to working on it. Examples of transition points are: Pick up the phone and dial (for a conversation); ask a question and then stop talking (for receiving feedback).
  3. Make the decision — set a time and place where you will get started (transition).
  4. Prime your emotional courage. Starting something hard will bring up feelings of discomfort and you will need to be prepared to feel things to move through it without stopping. 
  5. Follow through without questioning
  6. Repeat this every day.

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