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Emotional Flexibility: How to Hold *Everything* at Once
Emotional Flexibility
Emotional flexibility is about embracing the never-ending contradictions and cultivating your mind to hold everything at the same time.
Holding happiness, joy, and enthusiasm at the same time as anger, sadness and frustration provide us with resilience and a deeper understanding of life.
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Emotional Roller Coaster
The modern world with all its beauty and ugliness provides a roller coaster-like emotional ride to us. These complex times keep throwing life events and news at us that demand extreme emotions, often almost at the same time.
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Set Happiness Goals
You control your happiness the same way you control your health, and If you can set goals for your health, you can do it for happiness.
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Make Your Bedroom A Haven
Sleep and happiness go hand in hand. Try to make your bedroom conducive to good sleep as much as possible.
Soundproof it and cut light as best as you can; that includes keeping away any gadget that will tempt you to surf the web.
Drink Tea
Theanine, which is present in green and black tea, reduces anxiety and will calm your nerves and make you happy.
So whenever you're feeling stressed because things aren't going your way, grab yourself a nice cup of tea to calm your nerves.
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Emotional clarity
It means that we have a good understanding of how we feel emotionally.
Label your emotions
Use plain language. The more fluent you are with real emotional language, the more clearly you will be able to think about how you’re feeling.
Clarify your emotions
Get used to the idea of emotional complexity. When we feel upset, we're not feeling one single emotion. We are usually experiencing a blend of many emotions.
Training ourselves to look for and see this emotional complexity is key to better understanding ourselves when we’re upset and moving on in a healthy way.
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Having 'everything'
We think once we have a fulfilling job, we'll be happy, or once we have a loving partner or children, we'll never feel dissatisfied again.
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Hiding from yourself
Pretending you’re normal and trying to fit in with the innocents in your midst keeps you sad and negative.
Don't stigmatize your dissatisfaction or restlessness. Don't scold yourself for your feelings, but make more space for them. These sensations will lead you down a new path toward joy.
Converse with your negative self
Try inviting your sad and negative self to find out why you feel this way. You won’t know what you truly want until you listen patiently to yourself. If you give it time, you'll find out what you really long for.
Sometimes, it is something about the way you've structured your days that doesn't honor the potential and countless possibilities that are stretched out before you. Or something about your anxiety has caused you to build things that restrict you. Your fears will keep you inside predictable shapes.
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